[gloamingone]

I stopped communicating with my parents while they were in their winter retreat. I was straight up, telling them that I couldn't handle anymore how abusive they were to me as a child. Everything was fine, no communication, until they returned to town. Suddenly they want to talk to me again. I don't know what to do. I've been so great without them that it seems like talking to them would just be a huge mistake!

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[hvert]

Did they say anything at all when you told them you didn't want to talk to them this winter?

No communication with parents is hard. I'm settling for extremely low communication with my father right now.

[RileyRonan]

This might sound like the stereotypical answer and not be much help, but it might be good to have a face-to-face conversation with them and tell them everything--about how you feel, what you think, what you want, the effects their abuse had on you. I guess it's technically called "closure" or whatever, but no matter the technical term, maybe talking to them face-to-face about it at least once would help you.

Also, if you're doing well with them outside of your life then you might just need to stay away from them for a while before communicating again. Sometimes choosing distance is the best way to deal with a problem before trying to rebuild the relationship--even with parents.

I don't have personal experience in the kind of situation you're in, but I hope this helped.