Husband has no job doesn't seem to be doing anything about it

I'm not sure what he is thinking and I'm not sure I'm communicating with him effectively enough. Does anyone have any good resources for what I could do better to explain that I am stressed out about him not having a job and doesn't appear to be looking for one? He spends A LOT of time building websites and learning how to do that to eventually make money but he isn't terribly proactive with bringing money in. I am trying to be supportive of his artistic side but I feel like I've had enough. WE have 3 kids who are 12,11, and 2. I am working at a job I DESPISE because he can't (or won't) find a job. I'm so frustrated by this. He is a good man. I'm just over it. please advise.

My ex-husband was a good, kind person, too, but he wasn't a responsible person. He was unemployed for over two years and spent little time looking for a job. I generally didn't talk to him about it, because I didn't want to bring him down or threaten his self-esteem. So I mostly kept quiet about it, except for a few times when particularly hard financial times hit; then, I ended up crying and asking him to please do what he could to step up his game and find a job.

Eventually I was at the end of my rope because of this and other things. I told him that our marriage was on the line. I stopped sugar-coating things and worrying about his ego, and just spoke to him directly. He had a good job five weeks later. (We ended up divorcing anyway; there were plenty of other problems, and all the resentment I had stored up had taken its toll as well.)

So my advice is that if you're biting your tongue or trying to sugar-coat how much this is stressing you out and upsetting you, stop. You don't have to be unkind, and you don't have to give ultimatums, but I think you should be very, very direct. Remind him that he has a responsibility to his family.

Good luck to you all. I know this is a hard situation. Sorry that you're having to pick up the slack.