[Tiger Dust]

So. I'm new here. I'm really seeking someone to talk to because I"m h olding stuff in to the point that I think I'm going to blow up or go crazy.

My husband suffers from mild Asperger's. He's very hard to live with and harder to communicate with.

Right now we are in a bit of a crisis situation over me facebook messaging a friend "too often".

I just.....really need to talk to someone....anyone. My friends have mostly been driven away because they're uncomfortable with my husband. The few that I have managed to hold onto, well....I don't want to be seen as the complaining type.

There's a lot at play here--including my being unhappy with where we live (in a one bedroom shack next to my in-laws in the woods), and with my struggle for custody over my 3 daughters.

However, my main issue is my husband's desire for me to have no social outlet. I'm a social person. I like talking to people. When I'm upset, especially, I need an ear.

Just typing this is making me realize that my issues are way too long to be able to get into in any sort of depth.

[pj4101]

Originally Posted by Tiger Dust

So. I'm new here. I'm really seeking someone to talk to because I"m h olding stuff in to the point that I think I'm going to blow up or go crazy.

My husband suffers from mild Asperger's. He's very hard to live with and harder to communicate with.

Right now we are in a bit of a crisis situation over me facebook messaging a friend "too often".

I just.....really need to talk to someone....anyone. My friends have mostly been driven away because they're uncomfortable with my husband. The few that I have managed to hold onto, well....I don't want to be seen as the complaining type.

There's a lot at play here--including my being unhappy with where we live (in a one bedroom shack next to my in-laws in the woods), and with my struggle for custody over my 3 daughters.

However, my main issue is my husband's desire for me to have no social outlet. I'm a social person. I like talking to people. When I'm upset, especially, I need an ear.

Just typing this is making me realize that my issues are way too long to be able to get into in any sort of depth.

If you subjugate your needs for someone else, you will not be happy. Do you want your daughters to think that is the way to be a wife? Will he talk to you or does he just order you to do and be what he wants? Perhaps counseling would help although some men think that's nonsense. If he won't go with you, go by yourself. I know from experience that we often can't talk with friends about what's wrong in our marriage.

[kawaiigurl1981]

oh wow I am awfully sorry to hear this. Living with an Aspie can be hard. To me it sounds like a boundary issue, surely you should be able to talk with whoever you'd like as long its not directly affecting him. What is the specific nature of his complaint ?