I am being told that someone is faking a friendship. The person they are accusing has the tendency to only invite me to hang out every so often and usually it is only to accompany her to the cafeteria but usually she prefers to eat by herself in the cafeteria. The reason I wonder is because in the beginning of the school year, she showed definite signs that she did not like me at all by the way she looked at me and acted towards me, but now she seems perfectly fine. She also has the tendency to ignore me in group situations but that happens the most when her boyfriend is around which is understandable. The other person on the hand, exhibits behavior that is not much better, maybe even worse. This other person has the tendency to purposely leave me out of group activities and exclude me, she does ask me to hang out with her but that's only if it is one-on-one which is rare and when she gets mad she talks bad about the person or people she's mad at but then when she is happy again she acts like she is best friends with them again and acts like she never said any of those rude things. She also tends to ignore me in group settings as well no matter what and she doesn't even have a boyfriend. I do feel like the person who told me this info is wrong but I just wanted to get feedback just in case since the original person mentioned exhibited not so friendly behavior in the very beginning. Would you consider the first person I mentioned a friend or just an acquaintance?

[hvert]

I am not really sure where you draw the line between friend and acquaintance, so I guess I can't answer that question. The person who is trying to make you believe that the first person doesn't like you sounds very dangerous, imo.

Originally Posted by hvert

I am not really sure where you draw the line between friend and acquaintance, so I guess I can't answer that question. The person who is trying to make you believe that the first person doesn't like you sounds very dangerous, imo.

Oh yes I forgot to mention where I draw the line, sorry about that. I consider a friend to be someone who is there for you through the thick and thin and also genuinely likes to be around you, not just hang around you out of boredom, pity, or obligation.

[Daylight003]

Unfortunately, not everyone in life will like us. People click, people get along, people don't mind each other, and people clash. That's just how it is.. I ofc don't mean to sound rude or harsh, but the quicker you realise this, the better it is for you.. Acknowledging this fact, and learning to not getting worried or concern about the people who don't like you/us is the way forward.

Right now, I'm sorta going through something similar with one of the girls in my class. We're on friendly terms, but whenever the rest of the group is off ill/absent, she doesn't sit next to me. I've accepted this, I still like her as a person, as far as I'm aware she likes me, but perhaps just enjoys the company of the other group of girls she hangs out with more. That's just how it is. I can't change that. Can't make her like me more. The best I can do is to accept it, to move on, and to find other people I can get along better with. (Which, may I add, may not happen 'over night', true friendships are hard to come by.)

Anyway, I don't think I should give my personal opinion on whether or not I believe this person sees you as a friend, but none the less I hope my advice helps you out in some way shape or form.

*hugs* - Daily

[yumi]

You need to remember to be kind to yourself. With that kindness, don't forget that you are worth being a friend to people 100% of the time; not when it is convienent to them. If they can't accept you or ignore you some of that time, then they become unworthy of being classified as your friend. True friends are not partial friends. True friends are there for you 100%. You are worth having true friends and not settling for anything less. Hugs