[realheart00]

While on campus I fell in love with a lady and we stood in love untill we both graduted. After our graduation we both went for Youth service and after tht I got her engaged. Distance kept us apart for many months after that but we alwayz communicated and chatted on phone...after a while she travelled down to where I was and we made love and she took in. I tried my best and did some vital traditional rights according to african culture as regards our union as man and wife but something happened along the line. I lost my job and life became so hard for me. After 9months she put to bed and gave birth to a baby girl who will be a year old in june 2014. So like I said life got so hard that she left me and went to stay with her parents in another state. After she left I got a good job glory be to God! We then resumed communication but again something happened along the line. She sent me a text explaining what she likes in her kind of man. Dam it the ****ing text was not meant for me bcos I called her and asked her what the text was all about. In summary the text was meant for another guy and I felt so bad about that. So I told her I was not going to continue the marriage rights and that I don't trust her anymore. Guess what?she stopped picking my calls and replying my chats to her for 2 good weeks. So I decided to move on and I'm waiting for when my daughter would be 4 or 7 years so I can take her and care for her as her father. So right no my daughter's mama has kept her self and has shown me all what she has promised me in the past where all lies. As for me I'm just so unhappy and I'm moving on without her...what else do you guy expect me to do?

[Rose3]

These things that have happened - it sounds unhappy for you, and confusing situation. Were you planning marriage - and now that plan has changed. Yet there is your daughter - so it is important to consider what is in her best interests. Would it be fair to your daughter to try to take her when she is 4 - 7 years of age. So - what kind of contact do you have now with your daughter.

[curley]

Like the other poster stated these things do happen. People change their mind about how they feel, etc. She should have come to you first and told you her feelings were not what you wanted. But even though things did not work out for you with this woman it sounds like you have a beautiful daughter. I would not wait until your daughter is older to spend time with her. I would spend as much time around her as possible so she knows and loves you. Good Luck