[FaithlessCat]

So I'm addicted to my Best friend ... well ... we used to be best (online ) friends, but I think between us we have abused our friendship to the point where it won't ever be the same and I'm not coping with that at all.

I'm just making a complete idiot of myself but I can't seem to stop. He no longer feels the same or has the time to chat during the day and I know I need to walk away but I can't seem to make myself do it even thou I hate myself for not having more self respect

I miss having someone who 'gets' me to chat to daily, someone who feels the same way I do about certain things, who makes me smile and feel better about myself which is hard for my poor hubby as he lives with me 24/7 and anything he tries is met with me feeling its because 'he has to'.

I'm so sad right now and feel so completely lost. I have no idea where to go to meet like minded people online .
I just need someone to shoot the breeze with about music and gaming and occupy my mind

[darkpurplesecrets]

((((FaithlessCat))))

Just wanted to ask how things are going? I am sorry you are going through this and want you to know that you are heard and cared about. I hope you are feeling better and feeling a little less lost. I can understand when we are used to someone being there and then they are not how that feels. I hope you will post again and let us know how you are doing. Sending you gentle hugs and good thoughts.

dps

[arachnophobia.kid]

I'm sorry that you've lost a good friend. Life without those kinds of relationships is real lonely and I empathize.

My two cents: I think if you continue trying to meet people online to help ease the pain you're going through right now, it's only going to make things worse in the long run.

Do you feel you may have set unhealthy boundaries and unhealthy expectations in friendships? To me the kind of attachment you have for your online friend would be more appropriate if it were someone you've had a lifelong friendship with or maybe an intimate lifelong partner such as your husband.

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((( FaithlessCat ))))))))

I often find myself going through the same situation. Violating the limitations of a friendship to find what I want & then feeling disappointed when things are no longer "working". It's good that you recognize this -- but that is only the beginning. You need to figure out why you are so insecure in your marriage, because you clearly don't have much of a relationship with your husband anymore. If you did? You wouldn't still carry this longing NEED for others. You would share your life with him & trust his interest in you as being genuine. Friends are a luxury, but when you already have the certainty that there is someone who understands you completely? It's no longer a necessity.