Whats Wrong with ME!!!!

Why do I allow someone to treat me so bad. Why do I go through the same things day after day, with no progress. Why do I listen to empty promises, the fake I'm sorry's, the I love yous.... If this is LOVE I don't want it, its not what I thought it would be, I never knew love meant threats, name calling


There must be something wrong with me to keep allowing myself to be tourtured. TO believe the lies, brush off the name calling, and believe you when you blame me.

when will i have enough, when will I finally have the strength to say, ive had enough Im not taking you back.

I NEED HELP, I cant do this. I cant take much more

The start of the realisation is a painful one but the first steps to freedom...

Hi Lonely, No there's not something wrong with you, there's something wrong with them. And you're right you do need to get out of this situation.
I know it isn't easy though, maybe the hope that things can get better, maybe the needlessly blaming yourself, maybe the self esteem/confidence this relationship is taking from you, maybe the feeling all alone in all of this, maybe the wanting to believe..........?????
But you do know that love isn't supposed to be like this, so that's a great start to moving away from the relationship. Now it's time to put your needs first, and you don't deserve any of this!!
And you know I'd say you've already had enough of this, haven't you?
So just know you can move away from a relationship like this, and we're here to offer you support.
Alison

((((((lonely))))))

I used to be in shoes that resemble yours, I used to feel cursed with hope, senseless hope.

Because essentially that was a huge part of what kept me "stuck" in a horrid relationship that ended up becoming abusive.

I had hoped that he would go back to being the guy I fell inlove with. I had hoped that he just needed some time to mature, and that he would become a good father. I had even hoped he would kick his drug habit and that would mean treating me better.

All that hope for a hopeless case

Guess what was my epiphany?

I was fuming after yet another break-up, swearing I wouldn't go back, (because he'd actually beat me up this time) infact I was praying, practically screaming at God to keep me away from that man because I didn't understand why I kept going back, and I didn't want to subject my daughter to a life with him.

And as clear as if someone spoke the words, the thought "Don't fix it if ain't broke" ran through my mind.

And I was like whaaa? What does that even mean?

And then it dawned on me, he was never gonna change, never gonna improve, never gonna treat me better... He had nothing to "fix" because he never believed that anything "broke"...

So me hoping was infact useless.

Silly huh?

But that's the thought process that set me free, 5 years later he's still a junkie, still a deadbeat "dad" and apparantly beating and berating some other poor woman.

There's nothing wrong with you, he's the problem. But I do suggest you try to identify what exactly keeps you going back, because I'm sure it will be your ticket to freedom too.
I wish you only the best

I am in a very similar relationship.

I cant offer any advice without sounding like a huge hypocrite.

Just know it really isnt your fault.

You cant "make" someone treat you bad.