[kirby777]

Hi-

I am in a relationship in which this man refuses to tell a female "friend" we are dating. Why? The woman's som knows as I have met the son at bf's house a few times. She is the only person he will not mention me to. On top of this, he guards his cell phone. If there is nothing to hide why hide nothing? SInce this cause trouble in the past...T said perhaps we can have an open phone policy. Bf does not like this as he wants some privacy. This only makes me more suspicious as he is a KNOWN liar. SO the other day his phone was blinking, and I went over to it and it said "battery low". I did push a couple of buttons and saw 2 texts from the female friend whom cannot know about me. When I asked him how she was the next day, over the phone, he freaked out. He hates that I snope on him. I hate that he lies to me/or whatever is going on. I told him If I wanted to go through his phone, I would and he would never know it. I would do it while he was asleep. I do not do this. I really do not care that they text or he texts w/ anyone else, but just be honest. I do not want to see the texts. This time around, we have to be honest with each other , which is what caused the ruination of the first relationship.

He has refused to communicated w/ me for 6 days....yes, I can see how much he really LOVES me.

He refuses to go to T, and he needs it for his anger issues.

Any opinions would be appreciated. Thanks!

[Elektra_]

hi. deep down u already know it... i would say dump him.

[kirby777]

Originally Posted by Elektra_

hi. deep down u already know it... i would say dump him.

He is cheating on me or wants to be with her when he is finished using me. She lives 2 miles away from him, I
live 60 miles away.

[Puffyprue]

Walk away.

[NYgirl21]

I have to agree with the other posters. listen to your instincts, and to me because I was in almost the same situation. Your gut is telling you something, mine was too but I ignored it and ended up with a broken heart. I snooped through his phone, which is a behavior I am not proud of, but I needed the truth and I found it, and it was too late. I think if a man has nothing to hide and is in love with a woman, bringing up your suspicions or asking to see his phone wont blow up into him being defensive and not speaking to you. But, if you are always snooping for no reason or questioning him when he is tellig you there is nothing (which I dont think you are), then that is an issue on your end. From what you are saying, his behavior is shady from the onset- why not tell this woman he has a GF- he is protecting her when he should be protecting YOU! Be VERY VERY careful and vigilant.

If he has to hide the fact you're dating him in the first place is a HUGE red flag. That it's to a woman that he clearly wants to hide his interactions with just adds more red flags. You say he's a known liar. What in this makes you want to continue being with this man?

[yumi]

Too many red flags, dear. Walk away and don't look back. He isn't worth it.

[tinyrabbit]

There's no trust in this relationship and you're not happy. Run don't walk.