[JeanneDoe]

I always feel very insecure in relationships. Im always feeling like the guy doesn't like me and is playing me. I am currently seeing a guy and everything is great when we are together, but he has never told me he likes me. This is about the only thing about him that bothers me. He really has never said anything to complement me or verbally let me know he likes me. Even if I say "You are cute" he just says "thank you"

How do I get over this? Im pretty sure he must care by the way he acts but I can't help but to worry that he is just using me.

Any tips to feel more secure?

There is another post down the line I have made about him if you want to know more. Its really eating me up, and I can't stop obsessing.

[kaliope]

cant you just tell yourself he wouldn't be with you if he didn't like you?

I would have to know more about you. are you a people pleaser? are you doing all kinds of things for him that you think he is only staying around for the things that you do? if so, then stop doing so much. stop complimenting him, stop taking care of him and see if he is still into you.

[JeanneDoe]

Originally Posted by kaliope

cant you just tell yourself he wouldn't be with you if he didn't like you?

I would have to know more about you. are you a people pleaser? are you doing all kinds of things for him that you think he is only staying around for the things that you do? if so, then stop doing so much. stop complimenting him, stop taking care of him and see if he is still into you.

Generally I am a people pleaser. I like to give gifts and complements. With him I have not done this. He doesn't complement me but he takes care of me in little ways. Brings me a water, or serves me food first when we are eating together. Little things like that. He is also always offering advice when I have a problem. I think these little things shows that he likes me but still part of me worries he is only doing it because he is a good guy, but that he still does not have feelings for me. Everyone who knows him likes him, he never says a bad thing about anyone. I am truly falling for him. I can't think of a single bad thing other than he doesn't say how he feels about me. And maybe that I wish he would text me more or call, but he hates the phone and won't even call to order a pizza.. So maybe I am just over analyzing. I am trying to relax because I care and don't want to push him away, but I also don't want to be hurt and look like a fool.

[ChipperMonkey]

Look up the concept of the 5 love languages. You two are clearly on different pages and speaking different languages. I had this conversation with my guy early on so we both know how the other feels best loved.

[JeanneDoe]

Originally Posted by ChipperMonkey

Look up the concept of the 5 love languages. You two are clearly on different pages and speaking different languages. I had this conversation with my guy early on so we both know how the other feels best loved.

I took the little quiz on the 5 love languages page and scored highest on words of affection. I would agree that I need to hear that I am cared about but unfortunately he doesn't say these words. He does show through little things that he cares. However I have been in other relationships where the guy said I love you a lot but never did anything that was affectionate. he hated to cuddle etc. I guess I rather have the actions and not the words but both are important to me. Yesterday I asked about being on the same page and he said he didn't think that far ahead and takes things day by day. I guess I just wanted to know if he just wants FWB but I didn't get that part out. Maybe he thought I was thinking about marriage? I have no idea… Im very scared to talk because of fear of being hurt. I have been abandoned a lot in my life and its a big fear of mine. Thanks for the info on the 5 languages of love.