[jesusplay]

I have no friends, no girlfriend, nothing. I'm alone. does this make me autistic or is it just social anxiety?

[ChrisUk87]

Have u been diagnosed as anything?? I think how your brought up and your social situation definitely affects your abilities to make friends etc.Did u or do you go out alot in previous years?? You could maybe try something like online chat rooms or other social interaction sites as its easier to speak too people and take it from there.Its all about confidence and self asteem, if you have this then it helps.Its tough mate I know the feeling, I'm alone right now too after having a terrible year, god I'm ashamed at what I've became!!

[jesusplay]

I attempt but people just label me as "weird". I been considered "weird" ever since I left elementary. I have confidence, and I'm horrible with online chatting.

[ChrisUk87]

Maybe u could try talking therapy or something?? There's sites tht randomly match you with someone, maybe that.Its all about confidence and finding a level ground.If you've got confidence that's half the battle!!!

[BubonicPlague]

I don't think you're autistic. When you're autistic you prefer to be alone. Autistics have a hard time with communication in general.

Do you want to have friends?

What is preventing you from having social interactions with people?

Same here. I was recently diagnosed as ADHD. Have you been tested?

[Hellion]

Originally Posted by BubonicPlague

I don't think you're autistic. When you're autistic you prefer to be alone. Autistics have a hard time with communication in general.

Do you want to have friends?

What is preventing you from having social interactions with people?

That is not true for all people with autism, I don't prefer to be alone....just sometimes need more alone time or time to relax and re-charge but I don't like being alone consistently...some really prefer to be alone but a lot do want to make friends and have people they can spend time with but still have difficulties with social interaction and can come off as 'weird' which doesn't always get the best reaction from people.

[GalacticaActual]

Originally Posted by jesusplay

I attempt but people just label me as "weird". I been considered "weird" ever since I left elementary. I have confidence, and I'm horrible with online chatting.

I've always been considered weird and it has been extremely difficult for me to make friends. However, I take Boomhauer's approach from King of the Hill when trying to make friends. In an episode he was showing Bobby how he gets so many girls. Ultimately, you find out he just goes to a shoe store and asks out 100 women until finally 1 of them actually likes him. I just flaunt my weirdness until someone appreciates it. Basically, just collect other weird friends through attrition. Don't worry about being weird, it usually just means you're funny and interesting.

Originally Posted by jesusplay

I have no friends, no girlfriend, nothing. I'm alone. does this make me autistic or is it just social anxiety?

NO one ever "taught" me how ot make friends either. Not really something formal.

As for the other part, autistic people are not the only ones without friends, indeed there are autistics with many friends too.. not really enough information here. Are you trying to make friends, are you just introverted? Do you go places, mingle with people.. anything? Have you had friends in the past and not now, or what?

[Elektra_]

well no one was ever taught to make friends. they were taught social skills. maybe thats whats missing. u dont necessarily have to be autistic or have social anxiety. tc

[TheOriginalMe]

Have you tried taking the Sanity Score The Sanity Score - Test Your Mental Wellness or any of the other quizzes on this site? They can't give you a diagnosis, but they can help you understand if you have some of the traits associated with different conditions. Knowing this can help you start looking for answers in the right places rather than just guessing where you should be looking.

[Strive4health]

No one can really teach you how to make friends because social interactions vary so much with different people.

I moved around a lot as a child, and I have been reading a lot that the constant uprooting in childhood can really affect one's ability to form close and lasting relationships. The last time I had a really good best friend, I was in middle school. I am social, know how to interact socially, have etiquette, but have issues making friends and getting past that superficial hurdle to having a friendship which is long-lasting. I recently lost a friend a few weeks ago and we were only friends for a few months. I guess people have different ideas of what it means to be friends, which is fine...but I wish I could meet the people whose ideas closely matched mine.

[namastewoman]

I am wondering if I am weird, too. I have two very close friends but they live far away - one on West coast, one on East coast and I am in Midwest. I feel weird trying to make new friends and I don't know why. I am trying to join Meetup groups in my area, but I even feel like I don't fit with them. I am lonely, so I tried the chat rooms and they are too fast for me. People typing quickly with abbreviations...inside jokes. I wish all of us weird and lonely people could meet up and hang out.