[Aiuto]

I do not know what to do! I have became a totally different person from my health conditions in last 3 years. I have 2 older sisters in medical field, a father in medical field, my teen daughter, my mother and Stepfather.

Let me start out by saying I have lost all local friends since car accident in 2011. I have a grocery list of diagnosis resulting from car accident. My father pretty much abandoned me at a young age when my parent's got divorced. I had talked to my father in 2012 when I got diagnosis. He called me a few times to see how I was coping. I have not heard from him since. He calls my sisters all the time and are really close to them.

I have my oldest sister that did help me with moral support for about a year. She has been dealing with a divorce and her autistic child. I know she is very busy. My other sister which is the middle child is totally selfish, self centered and reminds me a lot of my biological dad. She will text me about her life but will not contact me for help or any support. I texted her the other day asking her if she could contact me because I have to get some test done for possibly more diagnosis. Respond no she was busy at work etc. She has a lot of medical background remind you. So I say ok I understand. She does not say anything about maybe we could talk this day at this time. NOTHING! So I just let it go.

My mother helps take care of my teen daughter and me financially for my bills to maintain my house, which I am really greatful & thankful for. My stepdad is also helping with my daughter and financial. But otherwise I feel as if I am a burden on my family and all I want is some moral/mental support. I talk to my mom everyday but she is very busy with work, my daughter, and a friend of her's that is very sick that has nobody to help her. My mom has been trying to help the lady get a place to live, take her to MDs appointments etc. I understand that is her friend etc but I am her daughter and I am sick as well and need support. Nobody has time for me or even calls to see if I am ok EXCEPT my daughter, mom, and stepdad.

I have no support mentally. I hate the feeling of even bothering anybody in my family because I just get disappointed and rejected. I have seeked out support groups in other communities close by. But that is once a month meeting. Why should I have to look to strangers for any mental support? I am lost in the treatment mainly from my father and sisters. I have a therapist which an hour a week is not enough time but it does give me some strength.

I am sick of some of my family members treating me like I have no existence and they just make my depression etc worse. I am lost for words on what to do. I wanna just run away but obviously I cannot financially.
It sux to lose friends, life, and family members. I feel so lonely and damaged from my family. I need more than help! All I am asking for is moral & mental support. It's like a hug is nowhere insight! I had to vent because it needed to get of my chest.

How do other's deal with these types of family relationships?

[Alone & confused]

I'm so sorry! I could write a Book on this subject! My family wouldn't know I'm in the world if they didn't need me to do something for them. All I can say is take comfort wherever you can. I find more support here at PC then anywhere at the moment! We're here for you even if no one else is!

[Abadon]

Not sure if it helps but I know more or less what you are going through and feel your pain. I was in a bad car accident as well in 2012 and my life hasnt been the same since. It seens as though all of my friends have ditched out like yours did, still trying to figure that out. My mom and step dad (who I now call Dad) are helping financially. I have three kids though and joint custody of the oldest 2 with my ex wife. Even my wife seems to be trying to distance herself from me at this point (emotionally and physically) feel like I needed more physical help doing the day to day stuff than she can handle or than I am worth one of the two. Docs cant quite figure out what all is wrong with my back now,( tspine injury) odd black spots on my mri. Honestly not sure what to do either but sometimes it helps to have someone that can empathise. I typed this on my phone so i appologize for any errors in typing or spelling, but reading your story hit home in a big way for me and i felt compelled to respond. Even if it is just to let you know you are not alone in the situation. As depressing as it is i honestly feel slightly better knowing I am not alone in what isbhappening. Please feel free to pm me if you like, we can commiserate together and maybe start to feel less alone in our daily struggles. Hugs and thoughts go out to you. -Abadon

[Aiuto]

I really appreciate the responses. I thought I was alone. The past week things have been getting REALLY BAD for me. My mother is now constantly belittling me and always announcing that I have PTSD etc. If I am having a bad day she will just yell at me and say "it's your PTSD" today she reminded me 5 times that I have PTSD!

All I have is my house and yesterday the basement flooded and I have been very stressed because my stepfather(dad) told me that it is clogged and he needs to come and snake the pipes. So ya I am stressed to max! All I have that I worked hard for is my house. But for my mother to constantly remind me I have PTSD on a bad day does not make my condition or day any better! She tells me "I cannot talk to you" and gives my stepdad the phone. But in my mothers eyes I'm the problem and Im this or that negative. When your mother is emotionally abusing you and belittling you how does she figure I'm the problem? I have one word to sum my life up now....I'm tired!

I wish I was back to my independent self and healthy...that's obviously not an option. I am trying to figure out what my purpose of this life is for if everyone makes me be the problem. Like this is what I wished for my life to become. I cannot take the abuse from my family much longer.