[ace333]

this girl has hit on/tried to get with my bf when we were on a break about five months ago, in which nothing happened and he told her he waned nothing to do with her, said anything he could think of to get her to disappear ( dare i say calling her basically a slut).we have been back together since then and im aware of it...and shes aware that i know about it...yet shes still trying to weasel her way into being friends with him and now slowly me to??? ( uh we do not want to be friends with you in any way hows that not clear ) ...sneakily liking pictures from us together on social media, fake smiling at us when we see her showing up random places we are ( kinda stalkerish really), trying to talk to us even though both of us go out of our way to ignore her. neither of us want the drama that is associated with her....i find it generally irritating and wishing she would just disappear for good...its really weird.....has this ever happened to anyone before and what did you do to make that person go away or get a hint

[waiting4]

Originally Posted by ace333

this girl has hit on/tried to get with my bf when we were on a break about five months ago, in which nothing happened and he told her he waned nothing to do with her, said anything he could think of to get her to disappear ( dare i say calling her basically a slut).we have been back together since then and im aware of it...and shes aware that i know about it...yet shes still trying to weasel her way into being friends with him and now slowly me to??? ( uh we do not want to be friends with you in any way hows that not clear ) ...sneakily liking pictures from us together on social media, fake smiling at us when we see her showing up random places we are ( kinda stalkerish really), trying to talk to us even though both of us go out of our way to ignore her. neither of us want the drama that is associated with her....i find it generally irritating and wishing she would just disappear for good...its really weird.....has this ever happened to anyone before and what did you do to make that person go away or get a hint

I can't say it's happened, but I can advise, that if the 'hints' aren't working, you may just have to come out and say...."Hey, I don't want to hurt your feelings but we don't want to be friends with you. Soooo just go away, now."

Sometimes the direct approach is the most effective. Just be sure she isn't packing when you tell her! lol

[ace333]

we basically have in almost everyway possible....i don't get it...is she that dumb...or just that crazy stalkerish? im mean if it was me, the second someone called me anything and said its not going to happen, i remove you from my radar completely, this is like encouraging her more and more lol i don't get it. when i see i want to grab her and shake her violently and " say nobody wants you around how do you not get this " lol

[healingme4me]

Can you, without deleting her from social media, block what she can and can not see of yours?

There are those, in this world, even with the direct approach cannot take the hint.

[NWgirl2013]

Yes, and you do have to block her from social media completely. So does your BF. If she has more info like phone numbers, block her there too. If you know any others who know her, ask them what the deal is with her. Perhaps she is very lonely. Not your problem, but it might help to know what's up.

[ace333]

Im not sure. She's not on my social media...yet....and my bf says he'd feel bad to block her so he just ignores everything she does. She is known thoughout his friends and has either slept with most of them or tried to. Its very weird. Most people in the circle of friends don't like her and have told her the same thing and she still won't leave people alone. Including us...its very stressful

[NWgirl2013]

Good to know your BF has compassion, just in general. She sounds like someone who has no self esteem and is desperate for human contact, even inappropriate.
It is not your or your BF job to teach her boundaries. She seems not to understand what that is anyway.
Just continue to have as little contact as possible, BF should block her though, no matter how bad it makes him feel, it is sending the wrong message not to. She may think it is an open door and will continue to go through it until it is closed. It may be the only thing she understands.
I feel sorry for her myself and I don't even know her....