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Old May 21, 2014, 08:17 AM
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im really having a hard time with my boyfriends mood swings. its nothing new he's always had them but now its becoming a major irritation and he's so childish i don't know what to think or do. so for eample his mood swings happen when things don't go his way and he looks to me to take his frustraion out and its up to me to fix the problem. im going to go into detail. here is one such example, please keep in mind this kind of thing happens all the time with different scenarios.
bf says he needs to use my printer, no big deal, begins to freak out throwing a childs temper tantrum because the printer will not print for some unknown reason, gets fed up starts cussing me out about how dumb my printer is and why isn't it working and how this is stupid and i need to fix it....i walk into the room push the printer on switch wait a second and it begins printing his papers....all that tantrum because he didn't turn the button on correctly first :/ no apology or thanks just goes about like nothing happened.
another example: " babe i can't find ( insert item) this is F****** stupid, i hate everything why can't i find this, will you get off you ***** and help me find it..tons of other yelling .....its in his pocket or in plan view....hands it to him....oh there it is.... like nothing happened

i deal with these childish tantrums all the time from him...he's thirty years old....why is he acting this childish when things don't go his way, and places blame and the solution on me?

a little side note for humor: he says he doesn't want to grow up and have the pressures of an adult life such as having kids and such which i agree with, and he wants to remain young spirited ( no problem)....but i did not sign up to take care of an adult who completely acts and behaves worse than a three year old with tantrums and things not going their way. so what is the psycological issue going on here

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Old May 21, 2014, 08:49 AM
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Old May 21, 2014, 09:22 AM
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Old May 21, 2014, 11:49 AM
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He won't change.

Which means you need to change how you react to him and whether you accept his behaviour. In your shoes I would either end the relationship or set out conditions e.g. that he needs to get some help for his temper.

I recommend leaving.
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Old May 21, 2014, 01:30 PM
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There's being young spirited and well adjusted with life's issues resolved, then there is this type of behavior.

Are you asking, to know if he's a fixer upper? Or to make a change?

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Old May 21, 2014, 04:58 PM
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great question, healingme4me

Sounds like he's BPD with no therapy to help control his meltdowns. I mean, I've done the thing with the printer, myself....I've learned not to yell at someone trying to help but I do sometimes get tense in my tone of voice. I'm working on that.

I've been in relationships before I was diagnosed and they didn't and I didn't understand what the hell was going on with me. Mostly I'd leave them because I knew it was only a matter of time before they got fed up with me and left me.

If you love the guy, try to gently convince him to get some help for his moods....if he refuses, then as much as I hate to say it (after wearing the shoes on my feet) I agree with tinyrabbit.

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Old May 21, 2014, 06:37 PM
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Old May 22, 2014, 05:01 AM
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a change in him would be ideal. we have been together alomst 6 years, so like i said his behavior is nothing new. i have ask many times for him to get help. he's actually been on a medicine that suppose to help with his anxiety/ mood swings, but here within the last few years its slowly declined in effectivness. i have told him he needs to explain that to his dr and get his pill dosage changed/ upped but he refuses he says he doesn't want to take pills anymore and wants to go the natural route....but its clearly not working and he needs something to help
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