[valexand]

I recently got dumped at the critical age of 29. I was hanging in there with this guy who gave signals of wanting to move the relationship to the next stage. Now I am only able to see that this was his cruel trick of making me stay with him. Met him when I was only 23. Just think all the years I wasted!!!
Well, he immediately and very easily moved on with his life and is now with somebody else. Ok, so here is the worst part for me: He has his own website where he selfishly writes things about himself and his days. Everyday, maybe even twice a day, I find myself reading his on-line "journal" over and over. I don't know why I do this. This is hurting me because I am sort of forcing to look at his happy life with this new person that he's with. I am unable to stop! I am actually rubbing this into my very own face! What would you do? Would you ignore his website?

My life after this break-up has only been going downhill. While he is all happy and content in his new relationship, I have had dates with bad characters. Now that I am 30, nobody shows any interest. Some run away when I tell them my age. The ones that seemed interested were not emotionally stable and took out their own past break-ups on me. I am currently thinking of writing an email to my ex, just to let him know what his actions did to my life. I want to let him know that his selfishness to play around (waste!) my time was so critical that now I am facing a life alone. Why should he enjoy his life without any guilt?! Why shouldn't I make him see the damage that he has done to a person's life? Would I be wasting my breath? What would you do? Would you write to him? Would you write to an ex to notify him/her that your life is horrible because of his/her selfish actions?

Thanks for reading this loooong post.

[valexand]

Ok, listen, to all of you who read my post, thanks!

Don't bother answering to this post. I decided to go ahead with it and email him. Can't stand this anymore. I also have his new "victim's" email. I really feel like doing some damage! Not so christian of me, huh? Well, I sort of don't care about that anymore! Can's stand to be in my own skin! Why should I always be the one to be nice and "accepting". He's getting away with this! There is no police for this to go get him! No punishment!
Screw men! I hate them all! Women should go right ahead and use them just they use us!

[nothemama8]

Val, don't play into his game, your better than him. You wasted nothing you learned a hard lesson thats all.
Angie

do not stoop to that level. living a better life is the best revenge......xoxoxo pat

[almostangela]

Hey darlin, it's hard letting go of the hurt you feel inside, but for yourself, forgive yourself for not seeing it sooner, let go a little more each day and before you know it, you will be persued by very nice guys. It is likely that they are not staying away because of your age, but because they can sense the hurt and anger (and that is scarey to most people). When you move through this greiving process (which involves anger, resentment, pity, shame and a whole bunch of other crap) you will start to relax, and the opportunties for happiness will be presented again. Cut him loose, not for him, but for yourself. You are not alone in this process and it will pass. I promise. (ps. no experience is wasted and neither was your time with him)

i'm 63.....it ain't over at 30! trust me......let go of the useless
one and move on.....someone who really cherishes you will turn up.......love, pat

[justaguy]

you need to do the chicken %#@&#! if you still have a key ah the door is open put a pair of panties at the foot of the bed on her side, or an earring under the pillow. if he is TRUELY deserving nothing will make you feel better than revenge.you have the power to change his web page to his life sucks the old job isnt so safe when you let the air out of two tires every few days. and like most women they use the bathroom first when they arrive, nothing like a condom floating ha ha you go girl teach him a lessen he wont soon forget above turn that frown into the smile after all if you inlist some friends the laughs can go on and on