Problem due to ignorance from husband

I'm married women 31 yrs old. Me n my husband are in same business and we stay together for at least 20hrs a day. but form last few months we keep on fighting he keep on abusing me and don't talk to me much. I don't have any friend so i need his attention. i tried to make him happy in every way but ....... When ever he goes outside away from me I feel that he is cheating and going with other women though I know he don't have any serious relationship and go for paid ....... I can't control my self and start shouting on him. this create problem in our relationship. He don't care about me.

Do you really want to stay married to him? If you wanted to leave, would that be possible . . . . or not?

I'm sorry that you are in such a lonely marriage. Maybe the two of you were just never right for each other in the first place. Was there a time when you did get along and feel close?

I never understand why people stay together if they are unhappy. Or especially if one is cheating. Why cheat, why not just move on! If you feel your husband is cheating on you those feelings may be valid. Have you confronted him about it?
Have you talked to him about the way he treats you. You say you try to make him happy, but what does he do for you.
Maybe you should try to make yourself happy. Good luck!

It is distressing to hear about your difficulties, reetu, and I hope things can improve. Personally, I think the first thing you might want to look at is your social circle. Honestly, spending 20 hours a day with the same person, even if you love them immensely, can lead to tension. Marriage takes work and it has its stressful times just as any other relationship does. Perhaps, you can find friendships that will allow you to introduce some variety in your lives. I have a feeling that can make a big difference. Also, you probably do need some personal time for yourselves regularly to allow some freshness back into the marriage. We all have both personal and social needs as human beings. You might also benefit from a vacation from your business and take a little time to relax and enjoy each other's company in a different setting. A marriage counselor could serve as a mediator to help you express your feelings to each other and provide strategies to become closer once again. Take some time and look at all your options. I have a feeling there are ways for you to restore your marriage to a healthy state if you just both take a breath and genuinely commit to finding a way to help your marriage. That will most likely take the form of several components but it can renew your lives in a multitude of ways.

First, from your post I can't assume from your "he keep abusing me" statement that what he is doing is abuse. I won't make any judgements here because that's just too little information. How is he abusive, what is he doing that's abusive, etc?

You're together much of the time and you say lately all you do is fight? On that I wonder if maybe you need to take time away from each other as you might both be feeling the need for some space. Even people that love each other immensely will need space at times.

"whenever ... I think he is cheating... " ok so here is where my biggest question arises from. Why would you think that? Is there any evidence of him cheating? In my experience, someone that is cheating would be spending less time with their loved one not as much as 20 hours a day. That right there makes it relatively difficult for him to spend time with other women, let alone cheat on you. Unless you're on a different time scale than me, a day has 24 hours which leaves him only 4 hours a day to even get out and find a woman, be with her and even have a date/sex etc... Does not seem reasonable to me for you to have this fear.

"... I start shouting..." I'm curious as to whether, based on the unreasonable fear above that the shouting is driving him away. You're yelling at him based on fear that he's cheating and as I pointed out, if your time reference is correct, it's nearly impossible for that to be occurring, and highly improbably that it is. So based on that, it would mean he might be quite perturbed by the fact that you're railing at him about this and he's there going "wtf? I'm here 20 or so hours a day... how can you even imagine this?"

TBH, you seem to have an issue with paranoia and with insecurities, possibly you're a possessive of your man.

Again this is all from your brief description so perhaps your elaborating on what's going on might change what I've surmised from teh situation.