[gloamingone]

Last Friday night I was feeling VERY unwell. Like I should have been at the psych ER unwell. I followed my safety plan and contacted my boyfriend, who was, as usual, out with friends. He actually refused to come home.

My ex-husband was next on the list, and he kept me safe until my boyfriend came home so I wouldn't be alone.

When I tried to talk to my boyfriend about it a few days later, he accused me of going out of my way to hurt him. I genuinely feel like his friends are more important to him than I am. Well, I've always felt that way, but this really clinched it. Apparently his fun means more to him than my life.

Thanks for reading. I just needed to get that off my chest.

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[waiting4]

Originally Posted by gloamingone

Last Friday night I was feeling VERY unwell. Like I should have been at the psych ER unwell. I followed my safety plan and contacted my boyfriend, who was, as usual, out with friends. He actually refused to come home.

My ex-husband was next on the list, and he kept me safe until my boyfriend came home so I wouldn't be alone.

When I tried to talk to my boyfriend about it a few days later, he accused me of going out of my way to hurt him. I genuinely feel like his friends are more important to him than I am. Well, I've always felt that way, but this really clinched it. Apparently his fun means more to him than my life.

Thanks for reading. I just needed to get that off my chest.

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I hope you're feeling better....when you can do so, you should have a little talk with your bf about what his responsibilities are AS a bf when you are in need. He needs to understand this isn't a frivolous thing, and if your ex-H understand that, then he should as well.

I'm so glad you had a plan you could follow, but if your bf refuses to be, or can't be part of it, some adjustment should be made because your health is more important than his friends.

Take care

[Travelinglady]

Hmmm. It does sound like he is putting his friends ahead of you.

Have you cried wolf a lot? That is, going to the emergency room a lot when you aren't really all that sick? That's the only halfway reasonable reason for him to act that way.

[gloamingone]

Originally Posted by Travelinglady

Hmmm. It does sound like he is putting his friends ahead of you.

Have you cried wolf a lot? That is, going to the emergency room a lot when you aren't really all that sick? That's the only halfway reasonable reason for him to act that way.

No, but recently I've been having a lot of suicidal ideation. Sadly, it went further than that Friday night.

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