Do You Invite Your Friends to Your House?

Oh wow, I am so sorry hoardersSO. I grew up with two parents who had hoarder tendencies. It was extremely detrimental to my social development (never having friends over, never learning how to keep things orderly).

If you could do anything to stop your kids from growing up the way I did, it would be very good for them. Effectively stealing your daughter's bedroom to store junk is really an awful thing for your SO to do. Does he ever acknowledge that he has a problem?

No, he doesnt admit to having a problem - as far as he is concerned he is trying to make a bit of money for holidays - but somehow getting things up for sale is always really difficult to do, and when things do occasionally sell it so difficult to actually find them in the house. I would much rather sort out the house and have a proper home for the kids rather than worry about going away. He has lots of issues from his childhood that seem to make him feel insecure - but has never had any counselling, and isnt even registered with a GP at the moment.

I'm sorry - that must be really hard to live with. I'm guessing that even if you put your foot down and cleared it out, he'd just go out and collect more. It makes me really sad to see other kids growing up that way, knowing how damaging it was to me and my brothers.

Hey Hvert,

Also have no one to invite, and even if there was someone to invite I just wouldn't, it would feel like an invasion of personal space and i'm not a good host!

my mum is also a hoarder but I love her too much to keep bringing it up

I don't invite people over. I don't answer the door unless I'm expecting the electrician or someone like that. I have two chairs - one in front of the TV and one at my desk - so there's really no place for someone else to sit.

My home is my safe place from the world. I wouldn't be comfortable with company.