How could she do this to me?

Jun 28, 2014, 05:45 AM

I think you need to work on what ever is causing these insecurities of yours instead of trying to lay the blame at your girlfriends feet.

Most women these days have a sexual history.

Most men don't care. In fact some of them care so little that they are now happily raising another man's child.

If you can't deal with your girlfriends history to a point where you feel the need to be so possessive and interfering as to require her passwords and details of things that are none of your business then you need to let her get on with her life and work yours out.

ididwhat? · Jun 28, 2014, 02:07 PM

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Originally Posted by addamsfamily

I have been in love with this girl for long. I knew that she was a bit "loose" with boys. She will date anyone. But I love her. She has never cheated on me. But her past breaks me and makes me lose my temper with her always. All her exes have said that she has had sex with them multiple times although she says that it happened only with one of her exes. I was a virgin when I met her

We've had sex. She never enjoys sex with me as she is not a virgin. We fight everyday. How can I end my pain. I love her but for her past. In the end, she is a city girl. Can't expect much values. How can I deal with this. How can girls behave so?

Relax. She did NOTHING to you with her past. She didn't even know you then. People are not their past actions. *biting my tongue so I don't say something rude and sarcastic*
Does she actually tell you she doesn't enjoy sex with you? Do you enjoy sex with her? I'm thinking this is WAY more about you than it is about her or her past. Look within. Besides, you can't change anyone's past, including your own.

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I love her but for her past. In the end, she is a city girl. Can't expect much values

This sounds like you judge her and her past life experience more than you love her. "...but for her past." So, really... you don't love her... is what this says.
Look within. *biting my tongue again*
Good luck.

wajula · Jun 29, 2014, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by addamsfamily

I have been in love with this girl for long. I knew that she was a bit "loose" with boys. She will date anyone. But I love her. She has never cheated on me. But her past breaks me and makes me lose my temper with her always. All her exes have said that she has had sex with them multiple times although she says that it happened only with one of her exes. I was a virgin when I met her

We've had sex. She never enjoys sex with me as she is not a virgin. We fight everyday. How can I end my pain. I love her but for her past. In the end, she is a city girl. Can't expect much values. How can I deal with this. How can girls behave so?

You my friend should really take a long look in the mirror... How can you brutally judge someone you so call love.. Her pass is her pass.. You have to move on from this.. You are going to definitely push her away with this kinda of attitude SIR

Perna · Jun 29, 2014, 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by addamsfamily

She will date anyone.

. . . including you. Why do you feel you are different in her life or from others she has dated (or from her, since you chose her and you think she is so bad)?

veiledregret1234 · Jun 29, 2014, 09:30 PM

Leave that poor girl alone. She deserves better than your judgments of her and her choices. Her bodily autonomy, especially prior to meeting you is NONE of your concern.

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