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Jul 20, 2014, 04:08 PM
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Hi all,
I am a college student and at the end of the year last year I found a girl I really dig, and she dug me too. We were comfortable around each other. But now we have gone our separate ways for the summer. I think about her all the time and I am terrified that I will lose that comfort level around her when school starts again, and will be a jumble of nerves. I have "put her on a pedestal", as the saying goes. I have spent so much time thinking about how much I like her, I feel I have set my expectations too high. I won't be able to "be myself" around her anymore because I have deified her in my mind. I am posting because I am looking for advice on how to handle my own thoughts, as well as how to handle being a nervous wreck when I see her next month. Thanks |
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Jul 21, 2014, 06:59 AM
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Hello, GoldenSlumbers. You might benefit from a professional's insight:
Ask the Therapist I wish you well. |
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Jul 21, 2014, 07:38 AM
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Do not set your expections to high about her...will she be able to live up to that? Keep that brain of yours busy with other things you like to do. It feels good thinking about her...but try to keep it in reality.
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“A person is also mentally weak by the quantity of time he spends to sneak peek into others lives to devalue and degrade the quality of his own life.” Anuj Somany “Psychotherapy works by going deep into the brain and its neurons and changing their structure by turning on the right genes. The talking cure works by "talking to neurons," and that an effective psychotherapist or psychoanalyst is a "microsurgeon of the mind" who helps patients make needed alterations in neuronal networks.” Norman Doidge |
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Jul 21, 2014, 06:17 PM
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Shes just a human same as you .. mutual respect is the biggest part of a relationship.. Are you able to see here at all during summer break ? Can you talk on the phone?
Just be yourself.
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