[JeanneDoe]

This is a long story but I will try and keep it short.

I have know this guy for about 5 years. We both work in the same building but not really with each other. We met through a friend before we worked together and when I first met him I was not attracted to him or interested in anyway.

So after the past year I started to have feelings for him and recently the past month or so we started seeing each other. I am growing more serious feelings for him but he has never once said that he likes me or even to say I am pretty or anything. Maybe one time he said I was cute. When we are together it is really nice and he is kind and thoughtful but I don't think he has feelings for me. I'm worried it is just about sex, but we do spend very long periods of time together… Today we spent about 14hours together.

We are both busy working overnights and going to school, so when we are together he comes to my house and we watch movies and cuddle.

Today I asked him about being on the same page.. He asked what I meant and I said that I didn't know what he wanted and that spending time together people develop feelings and that working in the same building that could make problems if we were not on the same page. His response was that he doesn't think that far ahead and just goes with the flow. I said ok and agreed thats what we would do. However, I just want to know it not just for fun. He told me when we first started seeing each other that he doesn't do casual relationships.

I just don't know what to think. Thoughts? What should I do? I don't want my heart broken but I really feel for him. I'm sure he knows I like him.

[Rose3]

Maybe if you could start a discussion with him about some specific things that are important to you and to him. Ask yourself - where is this relationship going? Do you want to plan things together? Do you want to live together or get married? What kinds of things do you like to do together?

[JeanneDoe]

Originally Posted by Rose3

Maybe if you could start a discussion with him about some specific things that are important to you and to him. Ask yourself - where is this relationship going? Do you want to plan things together? Do you want to live together or get married? What kinds of things do you like to do together?

We do talk quite a bit and he has told me some very personal things. It feels good to know that he trusts me to tell me things and to know I won't judge him. As for where this relationship is going I have no idea. I guess I was hoping to get out of him that he likes me and is not just having a sexual relationship. I want to plan things with him like I would love a weekend away together.. but its too soon for that. Since we have only been seeing each other for a month I don't want to be too pushy. But I feel if he did like me he would say. Maybe he didn't understand what I was asking? I hate ruminating over it. I really don't want to bring anything up again because I don't want to smother him or push him away.

[JeanneDoe]

I guess I should focus on all the good things and signs that he likes me. I guess not saying "I like you" doesn't mean he doesn't like me or won't like me right?
I mean who spends 14 hours with someone they don't like just for sex?
Or makes it a point to make sure that I am well fed when we are together and making sure I have food I can eat because I am vegetarian. He asks me questions about me. He always responds to my texts. He always wants to cuddle and he likes me to hold him close. He often climbs into my arm and kisses me softly.

Would a man do all this if he didn't care? Or could I still just be a FWB?

[trying2survive]

from a man's point of view i will make this simple for you..he cares about you.

[JeanneDoe]

Originally Posted by trying2survive

from a man's point of view i will make this simple for you..he cares about you.

Thanks I sure hope he does. I have a friend who has been trying to tell me that he doesn't and is just using me. I have been with men before for casual relationships and it was never like it is with him. My friend says that guys will do whatever it takes to get a girl in bed but I can't imagine he would do everything he is doing just to get some.

Thanks again. I just needed to hear that he cares. I just wish he would say it.