[kuro92]

We broke up about 2 years ago due to him cheating on me and leaving me for that girl. We still stayed in contact though and he would often lead me on. For example, around last February he kept telling me he wanted me back and how he still loved me. I found out awhile after that during that time he had a girlfriend while telling me all this stuff. When I found out about his girlfriend, he just started ignoring me completely after despite everything he told me.

I've moved on after realizing how awful he is towards me and am now dating a wonderful guy that I've been with for almost two months. He doesn't treat me like how my ex did. He's not always putting me down and I've noticed since I've been dating him my self esteem has gone up again. When I was with my ex, he would constantly make fun of my appearance and it just killed my self esteem. I know I don't have any feelings left for my ex, but when I compare how good my boyfriend treats me now, I can't help, but feel a lot of anger towards my ex. I sometimes feel like just sending him a message yelling at him. It's like I'm angry that I allowed him to treat me so bad. Is this normal to feel this way? He was my first relationship as well. It's like part of me wants to get back at him and I know I shouldn't even think that way. I know I should just focus on my happiness now, but I can't help, but get those thoughts every once in awhile. I also got angry today when I saw his facebook by mistake:/ I get annoyed by the fact that everything is going so smooth for him and his new girlfriend despite all the mean things he's done to me. I feel childish for having that thought.

[Maria38Divine]

Hi Kuro,

I think I've felt that way about all my exes. Deep down you wish they would realize their wrongs and apologize for being such jerks, or for someone to break their hearts so they get a taste of their own medicine. But I've learned to not hold my breath for any of that stuff. He was your first relationship, so I can understand why this experience is so tough on you. Try your best to forget him. Distract yourself from thinking about him; ignore all his attempts to get you back (he's selfish) and try not to call him or check to see what he's up to. Enjoy your new relationship.

I have a similar feeling towards my latest ex as well.

I want to write him a letter screaming (as much as you can scream in text) at him about how much he hurt me and that I've worked him and his games out.

I feel a little like I'm lacking closure since our last contact was relatively civil with me taking most of the blame but I also know that it won't help.

He wouldn't care and I would just be giving him the opportunity to hurt me more.

Stay strong. Block him and stay away. You're happy now don't let him take any more from you.

[healingme4me]

It's normal, as you are involved with someone who treats you respectfully, to have moments of clarity about what needs weren't being met, how poorly you were treated, little things that might have been overlooked or not even realized as missing in the relationship or wasn't proper treatment.

I have moments of utter resentment towards my ex husband. Telling him, won't change the past. It's pointless to bring to his attention, he won't apologize, and I don't want reconciliation.

Helps me appreciate what I have.

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