Don't know what to make of this girl.

Hey that's fantastic!! And don't count out the possibilities just yet.

Go as a 'friend'. You may find yourself something more at the end of the date....and if you're still just a friend, congratulate yourself...the awkward part is over, it was definately a learning moment...and you got someone you enjoy being with at the end of it (which doesn't always happen, I'm sure you know).

Have a great time, and keep us posted...you know we want to know!! hehe

I know you were frustrated, but it sure sounds like you have an overall negative view of women.... jumping to such horrible conclusions about someone so quickly because you feel rejected... that won't lead to your own happiness at all!

That said - I'm glad that she got back to you and that she does want to be friends. That might explain why she has been somewhat avoiding you - when she met you, she seemed interested and you weren't. By the time you were interested, she had lost interest and might have been feeling really awkward and trying to quietly discourage you. But now it's out in the open, so a friendship is genuinely possible now!

Good luck with just being friends!

The best way to meet a more-than-friend is through a friend! Maybe you two can be wing-men for each other. Nothing makes someone more attractive than looking like they are already taken

I am glad she got back to you, even if it wasn't the answer you wanted to hear. Waiting for a response is awful, but at least you have a definite answer now and don't have to beat yourself up over a missed opportunity.

Crossing my fingers that Friday is a pleasant experience. Her excitement of your acceptance, does indeed, raise eyebrows on my perspective. And it's good to know, you don't objectify her, huge plus.

Keep us, up to date

You talk about weeks going by with you "not having a chance" to ask this girl out. What you refer to as lack of opportunity sounds more like fearfulness. That's understandable . . . no one likes to be rejected, and there's always that chance. I'ld say you've sent mixed signals that may have this girl pretty confused too.

It sounds like she definitely was interested initially. My guess is that she may have gotten tired of waiting for you to make a move and figured that you may have changed your mind about her. It may be that her vanity became a bit bruised by what seemed to her like a lack of interest on your part.

From what she has been putting on her Facebook, it sounds like she is not real good at the dating game herself. So the two of you are both being real wary of each other. If you like her, go for it. I wouldn't recommend asking her to something that is weeks away . . . or that puts her on a date with you around a bunch of other people. Just suggest something real casual like a cup of coffee . . . or a bite to eat. If she declines for some reason, consider that the reason might be true, and ask a second time in a no pressure kind of way.

Few things about a man impress females more than confidence and also the willingness to take a chance. Sometimes you have to fake the confidence.

Breathing a sigh of relief for you. I'm glad the awkward part is over and you've managed to smooth things out a bit. Good luck!

And she just canceled on me, both the date and coming to the class.

I know why though. She says that she's not feeling well, but more likely it's because this weekend there is a festival in town. No doubt one of her friends asked if she wants to go, so she's standing me up in favor of them. Not coming to the class because then she doesn't have to lie about it. She'll probably be back the following week.

You know, I really hate this city. Three years I've been here now and I've not had a single friend. Only been invited out 4 or 5 times and most of them were by my sister. Never had an invitation I've made accepted. Never had a visitor to my house. Never visited another persons house. Of all the places I've lived, Sheffield is by far the most unfriendly and clique one I've been to. It really ruined my life coming here.

Just over three months to go now, till my deadline. Sculpting class is proving to be a dead-end. Going to Scarborough this weekend, perhaps I'll meet a friend there. Remade contact with a girl I dated a while back too (turned out she's married) and we're talking a bit via text. Still, not exactly feeling hopeful at the moment. Don't really think things are ever going to get better for me here.

I'm sorry you're having a tough time...I know how it is to be in a strange place..and not knowing anyone. It can be lonely and frustrating.

3 months till your deadline? sorry, I don't know that I've read other threads you've posted, so not sure what that refers to, but if you are able to relocate at the end of that period, then maybe doing so will be helpful. Until then, just keep doing what you're doing....go to Scarborough and other places as you can. Just get out there.

You may not meet anyone 'important' at first, but just try to be open to the possibilities and open to enjoying yourself whether you 'meet' someone or not. People having a good time are 100% more approachable than someone who looks miserable.

Good luck and take care *hugs*

Feeling a bit better now. So instead of going on a date, I'm going to the country to a nice swimming hole. Take a dip in a natural spring, get a bit of sun, enjoy a bit of nature - should be good.

Ok...now I'm on full out envy!!! I try to make you feel better and you counter with a freakin swimming hole, getting back to nature??? Why don't you throw in a cold drink so I can just implode straight away????? lol

I'm in work, it's hot...and I'm annoyed that the closest thing I've got to a natural spring is the machine that dispenses bottled water outside.

Have a good time....have a better time for me....you're boon companion you left behind!

Don't worry Waiting4, I'll keep you in mind when I'm doing the backstroke and sipping a larger in the sun. Ha ha ha.

You do that little thing lol

And after work, when the sun has finally set, and I'm sitting on the little ledge under the waterfall of my pool...sipping a Newcastle (brit) or an Arrogant Bastard (american), whilst paddling the cool water lightly with my toes.....I'll think of you.

bwahahahahah

You do know there IS in fact a chance that she's sick. Jumping to conclusions is never helpful, and doesn't show much of a good opinion of this girl.

Enjoy the swimming hole!

Send her a private message on Facebook with a specific date request of call her

Great, relatable story. Glad to here you got, pretty much, a conclusion.

Yeah I can close the book on this one. Got the booby-prize though while adding a little more sadness to my soul. Happens way to often and makes it harder every time. Guess that's why I'm in the state I'm in. One day I'll catch a break and won't know what to do with it

You've got a helluva lot to offer a girl, Djinn8...the right girl, not just 'any' girl. Remember that.