Adults only care about themselves. They never stop to think about their actions and who they might effect besides themselves. And they are all alike too. So selfish.

[Steiner of Thule]

I tend to agree.

Anything happen?

[possum220]

Adults come with their own baggage. They aren't all the same. Some adults are selfish, some are selfless.

Want to talk about what happened so you might start to feel better?

[i dont matter]

i do not think i am selfish at all......

i think it is an individual. not all adults.

But either way - i hope you find the support you need.

[monkeybrains21]

I'm an adult and I very rarely think about myself. I'm constantly thinking of others. I'm constantly trying to help others without expecting anything in return.

Y do u consider all adults to be selfish? Do u know all adults? There are many adults who are selfish but on the other hand I believe there are more children these days that are extremely selfish. Kids have always been take take take and never give. By age 8 I was donating bone marrow, blood and other tissues to save other kids lives. What r u doing to make u less selfish than I?

I hate talking with adults because they are so selfish.
I was asking someone I know (an adult) for help about someone who is bugging me and triggering my PTSD and all they could do was go on and on about themselves. And then I found out that my coworkers are talking about me behind my back. They don't care that I heard about it and that I'm hurt by it.
And then when I was younger I dated an adult and he used me and didn't care about me at all. No one cares about me. Not adults, anyway.
Just selfish.

It seems to me that people have become exceedingly selfish over the past decade. I think it's a sign of living in a society that is way too stressful.

[glok]

Hello, Kori Anders. My hope is you remember your words when you become an adult.

It is one thing to talk the talk. Will you walk the walk?

[kjv2acts]

Who here didn't think adults were selfish when we were children?

[ifst5]

Adults don't have it easy. There's no one else there to take responsibility, make things all better and you've got to find your own fun. If you've had a difficult time before becoming an adult it also means carrying around a load of baggage while simultaneously adapting to a completely new ball game. I pity adults most of all.

[Grey Matter]

Kori isn't a child, she is young. Adults are selfish, and I am an adult. We can paint it a million ways to sunday, but the fact of the matter is the majority of adults are selfish people who use it as a survival instinct, or they are just bad people.

I have worked with older adults who scoffed at the idea that young people can be smart, deserve respect, or can even manage difficult work alone. And when did they come to me? When they needed something to help benefit themselves.

What you're feeling is valid, kori. Fellow adults saying "I am selfless" is like men going "not all men!" when discussion sexism. Not all are selfish, no, but the majority seems to be.

I think anyone posting here going "adults have it hard" etc etc is invalidating the feelings of a human being for their own gain. Which, ironically enough, is selfish.

Everyone is selfish to a point. I am, you are, that guy over there is. I think when we can accept that we are selfish by nature we can understand complaints like this easier. Everyone is selfish, everyone won't want to admit it, etc etc.

[glok]

"Whoever undertakes to set himself up as a judge of Truth and Knowledge is shipwrecked by the laughter of the gods." ~Albert Einstein
“The belief that there is only one truth, and that oneself is in possession of it, is the root of all evil in the world” ~Max Born

People are entitled to there opinions. I simply disagree with the generalization.

[Grey Matter]

I don't believe I am a judge of truth or knowledge, I am going by experience as is Kori. Opinions are great, I just shared mine.

[ifst5]

Just to point out to any fountains of knowledge, saying adults don't have it easy is not the same as saying they have it hard. No one here has said adults have it hard.

Gotta love reading

[lizardlady]

Kori, I'm sorry you had that experience with the person you went to for help. That person sounds selfish, no question.

That said, it's dangerous to classify all people in a group as the same. Are some adults selfish? Sure! Are some young people selfish? Again, yes! But saying all so-and-so are the same is sterotyping. I used to talk about "men" and how awful they were. Then one day I really listened to myself. I asked myself if I would ever make such sweeping statements about a minority. I was horrified at the thought. Right then and there I stopped classifying all men as something wicked. Does that mean all men are great, wonderful souls? Heck no! Not every member of any group is the same as ever other member.

Originally Posted by glok

Hello, Kori Anders. My hope is you remember your words when you become an adult.

It is one thing to talk the talk. Will you walk the walk?

According to the law, I already am an adult.
But still,

I get what everyone is trying to say, but in my experience all adults besides my parents have been selfish and I'm starting to wonder if there are any unselfish adults anymore. [Adults] They're selfish and they don't care about me. No one cares about me.

[possum220]

Hi Kori,

Today I watched a number of adults be very kind and caring of another adult who had hurt themselves. Actually I saw the same kind of thing two weeks ago.

No, not everybody is kind. Sounds like you need to meet some new people. A lot more people.

Maybe if you started being kind to people your world would open up a bit more.

Our attitudes can be reflected back to us.

[Fuzzybear]

[BeaFlower]

Hi kori. I'm sorry that you happened this Adults aren't all selfish, and it doesn't depend on the age, in my opinion. There are a lot of adults who aren't selfish, here and in real life. Hope that you meet some soon and that it makes you feel better.
I care about you

[brainhi]

Another way of looking at it (we were taught the word selfish is bad...not in all cases. And this does not invalidate what the original poster was unhappy about. The poster's feelings are real - but find out the real reason)

"Everyone is selfish; everyone is doing what be believes will make himself happier. The recognition of that can take most of the sting out of accusations that you're being "selfish." Why should you feel guilty for seeking your own happiness when that's what everyone else is doing, too?

The demand that you be unselfish can be motivated by any number of reasons: that you'd help create a better world, that you have a moral obligation to be unselfish, that you give up your happiness to the selfishness of someone else, or that the person demanding it has just never thought it out.

And when someone accuses you of being selfish, just remember that he's upset only because you aren't doing what he selfishly wants you to do."

Harry Browne

[Fresia]

((((Kori Anders)))))
I am so sorry to hear about what happened. It was not considerate nor helpful. It is important to surround ourselves with those that are supportive, and unfortunately, the reality is that not everyone will be. However there are many out there that will hold the same values that you do, it is a matter of finding them and cherishing those that treat us with the same respect, consideration, and courtesy as we would treat them. Find those beloved family, friends, and coworkers to be your support network instead.

There will always be some element of selfishness towards self preservation. However, I found myself the other day thinking something similar though as you have expressed in noticing a trend in various generations, not just adults and yet not everyone either , in seeing signs of being and more self absorbed and self obsessed, and less compassionate, considerate, and courteous as a result, such as: various media outlets tend to support this, Twitter, Facebook, etc; we even have a term now for photos that are so very popular and very consuming... the "selfie"; and could go on.

Know that you are not alone in seeing this in some others but know too it is not everyone that can be categorized this way. It is frustrating but it can make a difference in recognizing how NOT to conduct ourselves and to rise above it when it does happen by continuing to think of others, not just ourselves, help those that have been slighted, and "be[ing] the change you wish to see in this world."-M. Gandhi.

[brainhi]

I have worked with the underprivileged, the wounded, those that struggle with mental health and learning. I have been doing this a great deal of my life. I am not a saint...I do this because I selfishly love to.. it means something to me. I do not sacrifice. I do not think my life is more improtant than those that choose what they care to do in life. Even in the field I work in, I do not see many martyrs. They choose their careers because that is what they want in life.

If I had children - I'm sure there would be instances where I would sacrifice for them. Sorry for the rant...this thread may have taken a different direction.

Firstly, to everyone who responded here,
I was originally not in a very good headspace when I posted this, and at first I think I was just angry. But now a few of these posts just make me feel like my feelings were right. Not all of these posts, just some.

I'm sorry if I upset anyone, that's just how I feel. Dunno why I feel that way, maybe a mix of things.

Originally Posted by possum220

Hi Kori,

Today I watched a number of adults be very kind and caring of another adult who had hurt themselves. Actually I saw the same kind of thing two weeks ago.

No, not everybody is kind. Sounds like you need to meet some new people. A lot more people.

Maybe if you started being kind to people your world would open up a bit more.

Our attitudes can be reflected back to us.

I would like to get to know some new people.
But the more new people I meet, the more I am let down. I don't want to keep meeting people just to be let down again and again. I'm sick of thinking I've met a new friend and putting them high on my priority list and then I'm just crushed because I find out that they really don't give a rat's *** about me. They just care about themselves.
I can try harder to be more kind to others, and I am cordial, but it's hard to be especially kind to people when they don't show kindness to you, you know?

I know people here keep saying, "But I'm not selfish, look at all the things I've done!" And they're great things... but all I want is for someone to just listen to me. No one listens because no one cares. I find it's just invalidating to vent to me all the things you've done to prove your not selfish just to make yourself look unselfish while ignoring what I originally came to rant about. I mean, it's whatever now...

Originally Posted by Fresia

((((Kori Anders)))))
I am so sorry to hear about what happened. It was not considerate nor helpful. It is important to surround ourselves with those that are supportive, and unfortunately, the reality is that not everyone will be. However there are many out there that will hold the same values that you do, it is a matter of finding them and cherishing those that treat us with the same respect, consideration, and courtesy as we would treat them. Find those beloved family, friends, and coworkers to be your support network instead.

There will always be some element of selfishness towards self preservation. However, I found myself the other day thinking something similar though as you have expressed in noticing a trend in various generations, not just adults and yet not everyone either , in seeing signs of being and more self absorbed and self obsessed, and less compassionate, considerate, and courteous as a result, such as: various media outlets tend to support this, Twitter, Facebook, etc; we even have a term now for photos that are so very popular and very consuming... the "selfie"; and could go on.

Know that you are not alone in seeing this in some others but know too it is not everyone that can be categorized this way. It is frustrating but it can make a difference in recognizing how NOT to conduct ourselves and to rise above it when it does happen by continuing to think of others, not just ourselves, help those that have been slighted, and "be[ing] the change you wish to see in this world."-M. Gandhi.

I like that Gandhi quote, thank you for sharing it with me.
I'd like to find people who are not selfish, but in looking I'm not finding many good results and I'm starting to consider giving up altogether.

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Thanks, Fuzzybear

Originally Posted by BeaFlower

Hi kori. I'm sorry that you happened this Adults aren't all selfish, and it doesn't depend on the age, in my opinion. There are a lot of adults who aren't selfish, here and in real life. Hope that you meet some soon and that it makes you feel better.
I care about you

Thanks, BeaFlower, that's all I really needed to hear.

[trying2survive]

Originally Posted by Kori Anders

Adults only care about themselves. They never stop to think about their actions and who they might effect besides themselves. And they are all alike too. So selfish.

i have to agree with you. i see this more and more each day, actually with people of all ages. with age is supposed to come maturity, yet i daily see fully grown "adults" acting as spoiled children has become frighteningly commonplace.

common courtesy and the consideration of others has gone by the wayside, everyone is out for ME,ME, ME nowadays.

it used to be, when someone shook your hand and gave you their word..that meant something, when people got married they stayed together & grew old together.

now everyone is out for instant gratification & personal satisfaction.it's a shame what society has become these days, but i have accepted what i cannot change & only concern myself with what i can...you do have a valid point, one that has caused some self reflection...begging me to ask myself the question..how can i be a better person. thanks for this!