How To Communicate, Listen and Give Advice- Without Having An Emotional Breakdown?

What To Do?

I Am Very Happy and Grateful,
God Answered My Prayers-
Bringing Someone Very Special
Back Into My Life...

I Cannot Fail Her- I Love Her
and She Loves Me, Unconditionally-
'We Were Separated 8 Years Ago'
And The Unjust Separation Almost
Killed Me, Literally.

She Is "Self-Harming"

The Therapist Tells Me My Instructions:

Her "Trigger's"

*If You Mention That You Are Suffering- Or
About Suffering In The Past, She May Over
Identify and Try To Endure the Same Type
of Suffering, So She Can Have a Closer
Connection With You In Some Manner.

...You Verbally Encourage Her With Strength
To Not give Up On Life...

...Letting Her Know You Have Suffered In The Past,
You Are A Survivor Seeking A Fulfilling Life...

Will Inspire Her To Seek Fulfillment In Her
Life And Make Positive Changes...

Contact Between Me and Her Were Only
Approved Because of Her "Not Knowing
How I Was Doing" Was Stagnating Treatment...*

Everything Else, Confidentiality Clause.

We Spoke for the First Time 48 Minutes,
One of the Best Days In My Life, Past 8 Years.
Than I Was Told, I Did Well, Stay Positive and
Do Not Trigger Her.

I Know What Triggers Are, My Own Anyhow.
So I Asked, What Is Her Triggers?

After I Received The Answer, Which Hurt Me.
I Had 3 Days To Research What Is "Self-Harm"
Positive Encouraging Things To Say to Her-
1 Day Waiting for A Call, No Call. I Start Panic.
50, 100, 200, 300Mg of Serequel Would Not
Even Shut My Mind Down Nor Put Me To Sleep.
(I Usually Only Take 50mg At Nite)
Than I Took A Shower, and Prayer & More Prayer
Calmed My Mind and Spirit.

Than A Sudden Call 3pm My Time 5pm Her Time,
Yesterday for 10 Minutes, I Praise God All-Merciful
She Is Okay. (I did have a Panic Attack & Immediately
took 10mg of Valium, That Worked Fast). So Everything
Went Well, Here I Am Today from 8am-3pm My Time
I Just Have To 'Stay Ready and Prepared' M-F.

The Therapist May or May Not Know
Are Triggers Are Basically the Same-
Her Pain Is My Pain.. & Id Sacrifice Myself
For Her To 'Be Happy' Except I Am 38, She Is 14.
We Exchanged Photo's Which Made Us Both Happy.

I Need Her To Be Happy, Strong Endure A Few More
Year's, And She Will Be Able To See Me,
Move Forward- Express Her Deep Emotional Pain-
In A Positive Way- And End "Self-Harming".

Than There Is Me, Myself- Avoided Theraphy,
Now Need To Give Theraphy (Although I've Avoided Theraphy
for Years, I Looked At Theraphy as a 'Double Edged Sword'.
I Was Abused as A Child, No Body Noticed. Than Wondering
Praying and 'Not Knowing' Is She Okay or Being Abused?

Ironically I Just Came To Washington,
To Finally Start Theraphy Since Age 4 to the Present.
Understanding My Anxiety and PTSD has turned
into Complex PTSD, Getting Worse-

I Shall Now Take A Deep Breath and Pray.
I Cannot Fail Her Again, No Ways.

What Can I Do?
Best Outcome Is Essential



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Hello, 1a1m1y. Perhaps, you and your therapist might address your concerns in the treatment plan.

I wish you well.

I Just Completed a 30 Day Fast..
I Don't Have A Therapist Yet.