[LoveHopeStrength14]

I feel horrible and such guilt that in the middle of being intimate with my bf, I called him by my exbf's name. I seriously don't remember saying it and if I did I don't know why I would ever say such thing. I love my current bf to death and even asked him to marry me once. I am so deeply in love with him. The exbf was a horrible guy who I dated for 6-8months and I left him because he cheated on me. There was no deep connection with that exbf either. Its been over two years since I had any contact with the exbf.

My current bf now is in shock but tells me that he's not mad. He finds a reason why I would mention the exbf name bc he had brought up the issues about my previous relationships and thats probably why I said the exbf name. I feel even worse when my bf isn't showing any signs that he's furious with me. If I was in shoes, I would be so mad.

So what should I do next? My bf said he's not mad but I think its just because he's in shock. Also, he doesn't like feeling angry so he often hold things in when he's upset. I don't know how to make it up to him for doing something so wrong of me. I dont know whats wrong with me.

[IrisBloom]

This very same thing happened to me. I was married young and realized I didn't love him and he didn't love me so we divorced after 9 years. I was single for 8 years. Then met my soulmate. We felt like we were meant to be together. Once when we were getting intimate, I called him by my first ex's name...I thought he would be mad but he wasn't. I cried because I thought I had hurt him and he'd think I still wanted ex. He thought it was no big deal. My therapist said it was like a flashback to my first real relationship. It didn't mean I wanted ex, but my brain just produced the wrong name.

There's nothing wrong with you. It happens when you have had former lovers. It does not mean you don't love him. Forget it and move on.