Worst Family Member Ever Contest

I just want to add to the subject of "what other family members or other people in your life know about what is really going on"....

Many do see the reality of your situation even though they do not express it - for whatever their reasons are. Some are in denial. I know it's painful - you want to be validated for what you have gone through. I have a stepsister who understands me and I understand her - but that's it. No one in my family past or present "gets it' and they are sick in their own way.

I try not to let that hurt me anymore. I seek out people who I share compassion with and support - and it's a two way street. Having this PC site is so helpful as well.

Focus on your wellbeing - that is what matters. Get help to resolve the issuesfrom the past - you may be already doing that. Blood relatives are not always going to be there for you - sad but true.

I'm sure everyone's family is different, since we are on the subject of a worse sibling, my sister is the worst in my family so bad I don't even claim her as a sister anymore..And my oldest daughter hates her... For starters growing up we siblings , my sister, my two brothers and myself were always fighting, She ran away and lived with an aunt of ours, then later on in years she tried to say my father molested her which nobody believes, if you knew her you wouldn't either. Well to tell the worse part I suppose, Our mom was dying so my hubby and I drove to my mother's house.. Well we got in late night and my sister and her boyfriend were there... Well my hubby and I went to sleep in my mom's room for the night since my mom was on the couch and my mothers boyfriend was in the recliner by the couch. Our three kids were with us... Well when I woke up in the morning I rolled outta bed and threw back on my shirt, I slept in a sports bra,which I always wear. lol Okay that will be become relevant in the future. Well we were sitting around talking, and my sister said the N word and I asked her not to say it in front of my kids, and ofcourse she didn't listen and repeated it several times after I asked her not to... Well time goes on and my mother needs a prescription filled which my step father(moms boyfriend) and my hubby goes to get, My sister and her boyfriend are out on the porch and my kids are out in the yard walking. My sister calls me out there so I go out there, And she attacks me in front of my kids even while she is on the phone with a hospice nurse. Her boyfriend (who says he was trying to break it up) had his knee on my throat and my kids come running up. And then while she is doing the attacking she is telling me she is dying, no duh I knew our mother was dying and I had my peace with it. All because she had guilt from not being there for our mother it was hers to bear. Needless to say the hospice worker heard when she attacked me and called the cops.But my sister said that I got dressed in front of her boyfriend... that is where the sports bra came in to play supposeably that is what she attacked me for.. And she told me that she was glad my father died because he molested her , my father died two months prior to our mother dying. Anyways cop showed up ofcourse I was the only one with marks because I don't advocate fighting to my kids and my kids were there. My sister comes in the door and says the cops are there and they wouldn't leave without me coming and talking to them. So I went out to the cop told him sibling rivalry and our mother is in there dying and everyone is just very stressed. Sooo he made sure I was okay and made sure I didn't wanna press any charges.. Well after that my sister came in and gathered her and her boyfriends stuff and she said bye to our mom and left. When my hubby got back we told him and my stepfather what happened. Hubby ofcourse told me if that ever happens again I better fight back instead of taking it he was mad ofcourse... Sorry to say this I know what was eating my sister up was the fact that she was not close to our mother. It still does not excuse her behaviour. My mom was thinking with both of us there maybe we would get along better and her dying would bring us closer. Well needless to say after that my mom told me to forget her and not have anything to do with her.I was always close to my mother heck we would talk everyday, sometimes two or three times a day, it was never to late to call and talk to my mother ... My sister never took the time and thought my mother owed her an apology for being BiPolar Schizophrenic. Which my mother actually gave her... Even though I told my mother she does not owe her an apology for that, you did not choose to have that, it is an illness, nothing you have to be sorry for. That is a chapter that is closed now...