[Sadley]

So I used to live in the city, but being with my girlfriend for 4 months we started looking for somewhere to live together. She used to live in a pretty ghetto area where you have to watch your back and have weapons on you, so I told her I wanted to live somewhere nice and safe. Now, my girlfriend has really expensive tastes, and with me she usually gets everything she wants...and I'm a sucker for her. She told me she wanted a two story house... and once she finds a house she loves she won't give it up for nothing. So we moved far away outside of the city, to a small growing town. But it's 34.5 miles from where I work, so I have to drive that every day now. I just need some assurance here, because it takes a lot of time out of the day (not to mention gas money) to drive, and all I really want is to be safe and to have more time with my girlfriend.

It really sucks for us right now because she works crazy 13 hour days since she's a manager, and we hardly ever get to see each other except when she wakes me up at night...because I'm already asleep by the time she gets off work, then she has to drive for 40 minutes to get home.

Back when we were shopping for houses, I tried to warn her, it's going to be a long commute, and we already don't get to see each other that much. But she just kept insisting, and don't get me wrong, it's a very nice house. So that's my story...what do you think? And would you move anywhere with your partner if they really wanted you to?

[waiting4]

As long as it was safe, I would but since you've already moved, I guess the subject may need to be revisited. I'm from the rural south east so long commutes were always a part of life...that said, living closer to my job now is totally better.

But yes, would I move? You betcha red rider.

[Nightside of Eden]

No. I know I would be miserable in an urban area or anywhere with hot weather. And anyone who loved me would understand that and never ask me to move somewhere I would be unhappy.

[hvert]

No, I would not move to a place I didn't like unless it was temporary.

It sounds like you guys compromised but the commute is too much -- I hope you can find something closer to work!

[lilypup]

No, not unless I had a wedding ring on my finger and I agreed it was the best thing for our family. I would have secured a compromise about the long commute, but that is a personal irritant for me. Since you've already moved, I'd make the best of it. Did you buy the house or are you renting? If just renting, I would encourage you to find a closer spot for both of you.

[Sadley]

Renting, but there is no convincing this woman. We've already signed a year lease, plus, she has probably 30x the amount of stuff I do, so moving was a real *****. I don't think I could bare moving again mentally or physically.

[ChipperMonkey]

Your partner sounds selfish, and you sound like you're more than willing to indulge her and give her everything she wants. I suggest setting stronger boundaries with her or else you'll likely see the resentment grow throughout your relationship. You've asked the question if others would move anywhere for their SO, when the bigger question should be why do you give her things that she wants when you have to surrender important things that you want? Who gives a damn about a big house if you never see your partner? Essentially she is placing the importance of the house over the importance of seeing you. Selfish people never cease to amaze me, especially in the fact that they never realize how selfish they really are.

[healingme4me]

As far as 'anywhere' with my SO? Serious discussions with both parties having realistic points made and compromises given, is important. Ideal/fantasies are nice and all, but not always realistic. I, have a valid reason to keep my various commutes within a certain mile radius, and that's a serious consideration.
Would I move to a place with a white picket fence, just because it's a white picket fence? Probably not. If a place in an ideal location, travelwise, had a white picket fence, and I really liked white picket fences, then that's just a bonus.