[rolan86]

Hello, so here is the situation:

There was a girl I really had a crush on in a large class, but I never got the chance to say hi and introduce myself. So over the summer (after much much thinking of how creepy this might come across as and whether or not I should even do it), I send her a message on facebook saying how I always wanted to say hi, but never got the chance. She responded very well and she even sent me a friend request. So over the summer we chatted a few times and she seemed quite into it, so I knew she wasn't too creeped out by the situation, and it seemed she might have even kinda liked me. And then right before school started I messaged her again saying hi, she responded well asking how I was, and I replied and asked her how she was, and no response. It's been a week and still nothing.

And now school has started, and I saw her on campus, on a path where there are a bunch of students walking to class. And it was one of those incredibly awkward walking towards each other instances. I was going to do the typical "look down until she is close enough to look up and say hi" thing, since I didn't want it to seem like I was staring her down. I am pretty sure she saw me, and just as we got closer. Bam. She disappears through the first door she finds. Whether or not she was running away from me I do not know, but it seemed pretty obvious to me.

Why though? Does she really think I am a creep? I sure do feel like one right now. I am now terrified of running into her on campus again, just because I feel like a creep now, and I don't want to seem like I am pursuing her. The last thing I would want is to appear as someone that should be avoided. I wouldn't dare message her again on facebook now. I just feel like she thinks I am some weirdo who is looking for her. I don't know what to do if I run into her on campus again...

[lido78]

You don't sound like a weirdo at all. You sounds sweet, and it's very cool that you took a chance to reach out to her. However, I don't think she's interested in you romantically...she just doesn't have the nerve to communicate this clearly to you...so she's avoiding you and the awkwardness of it all. Try to not worry about her...do your own thing, continue to be sweet and open and find someone who appreciates all that you are. If you see her on campus, square your shoulders, look her straight on, smile at her and say hello in passing....and keep on walking...you had the confidence to reach out to her initially. She actually sounds a little too immature for you anyway.

[IceCreamKid]

I think I would leave her one last message on Facebook "Hey! I thought I saw you on campus but didn't get a chance to say hello -- so hello and have a great semester!" then I would leave it at that. You'll know by her response or lack of response what her attitude toward you is.

The good thing about college campuses is they are filled with students who might become friends with you. Keep trying to connect. You sound very nice.

[A Red Panda]

Like IceCreamKid said - saying a little hi and asking how the semester is going so far would be fine. I'm not sure how busy it was, but there IS a chance that she legit didn't see you. I've pretty much walked right in to people I knew and didn't notice them because I was lost in my own thoughts. And if she just stopped replying to a simple "how are you" then either she saw it while busy (on her phone perhaps) and then forgot... or she's really just not that cool of a person.

[hvert]

I wouldn't send any more messages, but if you run into her again on campus, just say "Hi" and take it from there. You haven't done anything creepy at all.

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Originally Posted by lido78

You don't sound like a weirdo at all. You sounds sweet, and it's very cool that you took a chance to reach out to her. However, I don't think she's interested in you romantically...she just doesn't have the nerve to communicate this clearly to you...so she's avoiding you and the awkwardness of it all. Try to not worry about her...do your own thing, continue to be sweet and open and find someone who appreciates all that you are. If you see her on campus, square your shoulders, look her straight on, smile at her and say hello in passing....and keep on walking...you had the confidence to reach out to her initially. She actually sounds a little too immature for you anyway.

lido's advice is great. if you see her just smile and/or say hi. otherwise i'd leave her be and definitely would not message her. if someone is avoiding another person then they need space not more contact.

[scorpiosis37]

I agree with lido, too. I would not message her again. It sounds like she is avoiding you because she doesn't want to deal with the potential awkwardness of having to express that she is not interested. If she felt a romantic spark, she would have messaged you back and she would have put effort into getting to know you. Her initial messages to you were very polite, but not more than that. Still, I think it's great that you took the chance of reaching out. You never know if you don't try. Hopefully the next time you take a chance on contacting a girl, it'll be the "right" girl.

[rolan86]

Hi everyone, yes I definitely agree with what has been said here. I will not message her again. I am just so worried about running into her on campus. Especially those long awkward walks towards each other. I guess just try the look down then suddenly look up thing? I guess it's my only choice. I'll just give a simple hey and then be on my way. Nothing else I can do besides that.