[linuxensis]

I play bass guitar for a cover band with some friends. But then my family always bring this up, and it annoys me. I find I'm the centre of attention too much, but that's a digression.

anyhow, i was at my aunt's house and my brother it up as he always does, and I said "eh? Well at least I have hobbies! You just work and spend time at home, I'd rather be happy and have a varied life than a monotonous bore!" He shut up, and since then I haven't spoken with him. My mother said to me in private the following day it was not on what I did, but then I didn't and still don't care....don't make me the centre of conversation all the time. I'm no more special than anybody else. See, a simple solution to this "dilemma". And this has been happening for YEARS, so I reckon I have a right to be angry.

Though was I wrong, I just want to see a balanced perspective if possible.

[Rose3]

not sure - did your brother say something?

[hvert]

I'm imagining these conversations are happening in the context of your aunt or someone asking 'so what have you all been up to?'

If you have hobbies and your brother doesn't, then your family has more to talk about with regard to you would be one way of looking at it.

I would try to think of what interesting things your brother DOES have in his life and bring that up the next time. It would probably make him feel better if you normally get all the attention.

[linuxensis]

I disagree. It's just a malicious attempt to undermine/hurt me, hence why I am always the centre of attention.

[linuxensis]

Originally Posted by Rose3

not sure - did your brother say something?

Interest is one thing, continual attacks are not.

I don't like being talked about for malicious motives.