Can't get a meaningful date

I use an online dating site, I've met a few women since the start of the year but it has been superficial at best. All of the ones I'm interested in show no interest back. I would like to date an introverted, creative type, but those people are impossible to break through to.

I do not send profane, sexual, or offensive messages. Sometimes I wonder if those who actually do this have more luck. Usually I just pick something from their profile and ask them about it.

Real life dating is probably not a good idea because I do not want children, ever. So it is best to use the online filters that show "no children" as opposed to the awkwardness of dating someone and having that discussion come up in real life.

Hi, VladM! I suggest you try someone in real life and let them know you don't want children early in the relationship.

I don't want to make on-line daters mad, but it could be you are getting women who don't know how to get a meaningful relationship going. I would think most women would want children.

But, that said, some folks have been successful with on-line dates. Maybe it's a matter of time?

I met my wife on a online dating site for people with a mental illness. It's called No Longer Lonely : Online Social Community for Adults with MentalIllness Everyone on the sight is dealing with some of the same issues you are. I hope this helps. good luck!

I feel you. I gave those online dating sites a bash, and had no luck finding someone that seemed fitting. (in other words, not shallow, arrogant, condescending, fake, etc) I did find a couple of women, perhaps, but didn't get much of a reply back. I'unno, ... it changes everything when you have mental health problems IMO. From what I saw on dating sites, no "normal" woman wants to "deal with" guys like us. It doesn't fill me with hope, either. :|

There's always that chance of coming across someone in "real life" that sees you for you, not for things like your mental health problems and stuff. From what I saw of online dating sites, they were either fake or just full of so many shallow men and women who are more than capable of meeting someone (fancypants job, might as well be models, travel a lot, etc) the "normal" way. I think we have a better chance of meeting someone awesome online, normally, like, via sites like PC or even Facebook, that on dating sites.

To be honest, one thing I learned from those sites is that I definitely don't want to go down that road. I will always favor the sort of romance that builds over time. I will always prefer friendship to perhaps lead into something more. "dating" via things like online dating and just... speed dating and stuff like that, it just seems so forced and even fake, with all the games and rules and crap; it's just not for me. I've been in two "serious relationships" and each one started out as a friendship and gradually grew into something more; I'd have it no other way, if possible.

Good luck, dude.

Hobbit House, any pointers for that site? Any info otherwise perhaps not displayed clearly on the site? I bookmarked it for checking out another time, but... man, I just feel silly for even thinking about it. I wouldn't say I'm "desperate"; I'm definitely not desperate, but I do feel hopeless, because of the mental health stuff. It's made a ton worse by not wanting kids, as I'm sure VladM can attest.

Post a good and honest profile. Be as detailed as you can be with your profile. Have fun! I hope you find this helpful. good luck

Good luck. I met my husband of 28 years through a newspaper ad.

As an introverted creative type on a dating site, I feel personally that it's difficult to even talk to anyone anymore. Even if they send me an actual intelligent message. The couple of people I've met off of the site either coerced me or were actively trying to find a way to force me into a sexual encounter. And so I stay aloof and that's why I'm impossible to break through to. The only way for someone to break through to me is to meet me in gal life and treat me like a human being, as opposed to a piece of meat. Unfortunately, those who treat me as such are not interested in dating me and vice versa.

I'm afraid that for the most part, dating sites are really only good for hookups and not much else anymore.

BTW, I know quite a few women who don't want, and never wanted, kids. Educated, cute women. This isn't a deal breaker.

Best of luck!

I would fall under that category as well.

Spark a few my way... (joking lol but it's nice to know they're out there)