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Location: Washington
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It's always been hard for me to make and keep friends. But since the loss of my husband a few years ago, and moving cross country, it's become harder. Any tips or reading suggestions you might have would be appreciated.
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Member Since Apr 2014
Location: TX
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Hey there, have you tried meetup.com? Depending on where you live, there may be an abundance of different groups you could try out. For instance, a few years ago before I met my wife, I joined an outdoors group that I went hiking with, and a vegetarian group that had bi-weekly vegetarian pot lucks and met at various vegetarian restaurants. I am not good at maintaining friendships, but I did meet quite a few nice people in those groups.
EDIT: Also, welcome to the forums, hope you find some support and comfort here. |
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I highly recommend taking a class -- a class that meets regularly for an extended period of time and which would have some sort of interaction with other people. I made a few friends in my gardening class this spring and still hang out with friends I made in a local history course a few years ago.
Both of my classes were connected to volunteer programs -- so you spend 20-40 hours in class in exchange for volunteering later. |
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Member Since Jul 2014
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Check out my blog...I did an entry on making friends there a while back.
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Member Since Aug 2014
Location: California
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IMO, my main weakness is having nothing interesting to say or SAYING IT WRONG. My ex wife was a good communicator and I learned a few "cool" techniques from her but the thing that helped me the most was Self Esteem work which gave me the confidence to speak up and establish a good connection with others AFTER I felt good and important enough to open my mouth and contribute to a conversation, offer compliments and show some interest in others and get them talking ABOUT THEM SELF. I find it hard to "stay with" a group conversation and often "drift off" when others are conversing but, then I've always been a loner, so maybe I will never truly develop great communication skills. This is all pretty funny coming from a public performer/musician who is quite comfortable talking on a mike! It's those one-on-one, close up encounters that are hard for me but I just fall back on the communication skills I've learned over the years. good luck honing your communication skills, jim |
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azureyes13, I sent you a friend request!
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