Boyfriend doesn't want to speak about his ex

My friend asked me to help me with some advice. She's having problems with her boyfriend:

I have been in a relationship with a guy for 1.5 years, but he doesn’t want to talk about his past relationships. I found a message from his ex five months into our relationship, saying she was sorry about the argument they had, and that she missed him. I couldn’t find a reply to that message, so I asked him about it. He got furious and told me he didn’t see the need to discuss his past with me. I have an issue with this, because I always feel he’s hiding something.

Thank you!!

Maybe it's just that it's a painful topic for him. He didn't reply that shows that he isn't currently in contact with his ex.

Snooping is never a good idea

I would be RELIEVED he didn't want to talk about his ex. Ick! If he wants to tell anything, he will get around to it. I agree that snooping usually winds up in disaster.

I agree with the other posters. Your friend should not have been reading his messages and she should be happy he doesn't talk about his exes.

His past is his past. If this snooping happened 5 months into the relationship why is it now a problem??? if they have been together 1.5 years ???? Snooping is never a good thing .

Again his past is in the past .. If he was unhappy with your "friend" they would not be together.

Hopefully you can show your "friend" these replies and its helpful somehow.

Good luck

Hes, i appreciate the reply. I feel more comfortable than giving an advice myself. It is always more complicated.