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Old Feb 24, 2007, 06:57 PM
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I am with a man. He is great person, but I am messing things up with him. I think I have Antisocial Personality Disorder and I dont want to get close or trust or anything with him. And with me doing that it is pushing him away and he is so far away. I want to be with him so bad. But he will not accept my kid and does not want kids and I do. I dont know if I can go through life without anymore kids. Can someone help me out and let me know. He said that he might want kids but not with me because I wont open up and talk with him or anything and I dont know why I am like this. I have had alot happen. I got pregnant at 18 then my sons dad left. He used to hit me and stuff. He came in and out of our lifes when he would get sick of me he would cheat then come back when he was sick of her. Then after him came the man I told him that i loved him and he jumped out of my balcany just to get away from me. I am thinking maybe that is what it is but with my disorder I was thinking that could be it to. I am not to sure what does everyone think. Also thought I would add that I am bisexual maybe that will help out some to let me know what you think thanks so much everyone.
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Old Feb 24, 2007, 07:23 PM
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he will not accept my kid and does not want kids and I do. I dont know if I can go through life without anymore kids. Can someone help me out and let me know.

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((((samantha))))

I'm sorry you are feeling so low right now. But I think the answer to your issue with wondering if this man will stay with you is answered in your post......

He told you up front he does not want kids of his own. You say he will not accept your child. The sun may rise and set on this guy in your eyes, but why would you want to have a relationship with this man when he's telling you up front he won't accept your child or have any kids of his own?

I'm sorry if this is sounding mean spirited, it's not meant to be that way at all. But, why in the world would you want to compromise the well being of yourself and your child over this man? I'm not saying he is a terrible person, on the contrary, I believe he is being honest with you and you are not quite hearing what he is saying.

Please stop for a moment and listen to your gut instinct. Turn off your heart and the part of your brain that will make any excuse sound plausible....listen to your gut and you will know exactly where you stand and what you should do about it.

As far as you being bi-sexual...the only time it would be an issue is if you were seeing others aside from your mate, or if your mate didn't like that idea of your sexual orientation. If you are seeing other people outside of your relationship with him....that could be a problem.

I hope you can find the answers you are looking for. I wish you well on your journey....take good care of you!

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Old Feb 24, 2007, 07:35 PM
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Please check out this book here on PC - it might be able to help you understand the WHYS.

http://psychcentral.com/reviews/show...8/cat/5/page/1

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Old Feb 24, 2007, 09:11 PM
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All I would need would be to know that he doesn't accept your child. Period. The end! That child is already here and has a right to good life. What kind of life would this child have if the "dad in residence" didn't accept him?? Noooo! I don't think so. He doesn't sound all that great to me. Sorry.

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Old Feb 24, 2007, 09:18 PM
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your child needs you more than you need a man that is unaccepting to your son
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Old Feb 25, 2007, 10:23 PM
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Thanks for the info I am thinking about it all and thanks for the welcome once this 5 post a day go off I will be on alot more but untill then only 5 post a day talk with you all later.
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Old Feb 26, 2007, 06:07 PM
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Do you think you are having an identity crisis? Or are you truly bisexual? How does the word bisexual come from your lips?Do you say it with passion and exceptance? Do you embrace the idea of being bisexual? Or do you think you were created to be bisexual because of an offense or many offencs's of a man or men?Or did you not quit grown up enough to experiment sexually. Have you been suppressed of your sexuality?Or have you only experienced love from the female race?My daughter claims to be bisexual and I don't love her any less.But I see her like a person lost in the woods. Because she is trying to find herself; know who she is, and perhaps just enjoying the sexual freedom.Or do I need to embrace her new found sexuality as well as love her?
when I see my daughter I am clouded by her beauty that she holds inside.This is often how I see her when I think of her.But at times I still see the pain she hides.

I call her my wild black stallion.

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Old Feb 27, 2007, 11:02 AM
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Lol it is not idenity crisis I have been with 4 girls in my life time one was for 4 months It was great. If your daughter is bi she is prob going to stay that way.
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