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Sep 23, 2014, 09:51 PM
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Some random creeper stole my phone number at work and proceeded to send a string of lewd disgusting messages. I figured I could/should mention it to my bf. That was a mistake, no support, no concern for the fact that I'd been violated. Instead he questions if my number was actually stolen or if I give it out all the time. When I deny it he gives a sarcastic" uh huh" and stops talking to me. So now being sexually harassed at work is cheating in his mind too. Ugh, I'm so mad I can't see straight. Why did I let him back into my life. I'm such an idiot.
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 anon20141119, shezbut
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Sep 24, 2014, 01:19 AM
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Why you could mention it to the bf is understandable, but the "should" part is unclear. However, it probably for the better - you unwittingly administered a litmus test to the bf, and he - as you know well - flunked it.
I think calling what happened a violation is overreacting, but if you feel that way, report the creeper to HR. |
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Sep 24, 2014, 06:45 AM
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Probably more an invasion of privacy than a violation. I reported him to both companies hr departments. It was unprofessional. As for the bf, everything I do or say or don't do or say gets me accused of cheating. Then told it's just because he cares. I also think he's a bit angry atm that after he blew all his money and sold something of mine and blew that money I'm not in a hurry to pay his phone bill. I also supposedly made him cry when I told him I wasn't going to accept an engagement ring from him while hos go to fighting technique is to call me names, accuse me of cheating and threaten to break up with me constantly. I'm in no hurry to marry anyone and definitely not someone like that.
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Sep 24, 2014, 10:43 AM
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Exactly why are you dating this man?
From your description above he doesn't sound like a good catch at all. 
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Sep 24, 2014, 12:18 PM
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OK, good, an invasion of privacy and unprofessional behavior it was, and you reported it so that is behind you - now you just need to put the bf behind you as well.
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Sep 24, 2014, 12:20 PM
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Basically, the bf is no better than the random creeper, but you cannot report the bf to HR so you need to take other actions.
You seem to have a blind spot, in that you assess the random creeper's behavior correctly, but not your bf's behaviors. It is good that in your mind his behaviors disqualify him as marriage material - now you need to take this further and disengage from him altogether. |
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