[annegreye]

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years. Just to make this quick, we had ups and downs early on, then things smoothed out, but the past year has been rough. Now when I see pictures of couples smiling a d looking genuinely happy, I don't feel that way. I almost can't relate. Any ideas?
It's kind of a broad topic, so I'm open for anything!
Thanks!

[Little Lulu]

Have you had an open discussion with him about where you two are in your relationship ... without blame?? That seems like the best place to start but on second thought, maybe seeing a counselor first to review where you are in your life, etc. would be prudent. You might gain some enlightenment that would be helpful before you take this issue to your boyfriend. Six years is a long time to invest. It is good you are being thoughtful about this.

[eaglegrad]

Originally Posted by annegreye

I've been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years. Just to make this quick, we had ups and downs early on, then things smoothed out, but the past year has been rough. Now when I see pictures of couples smiling a d looking genuinely happy, I don't feel that way. I almost can't relate. Any ideas?
It's kind of a broad topic, so I'm open for anything!
Thanks!

I understand your feelings. I just joined, been married 17 years and have fallen out of love from the woman I adored, if that makes since. Looking for help and direction myself. Good Luck to you !

[annegreye]

Anytime anything on the subject is brought up between us, we end up arguing. It's like neither of us can fairly get our points across. I can't just say what I need to BC he usually feels like I'm just attacking him, ormi upset him otherwise.

[annegreye]

I completely understand. It's such a difficult feeling to deal with. I know for myself, I still love him and care a lot about him and his thoughts and feelings, but there just isn't any pizzazz anymore. I more often than not just feel so irritated by him. I try hard not to, but I also find myself noticing all the shortcomings, and fighting about this or that makes it worse.

[soccerdad]

I recently separated from my Wife as I found my feelings have changed. I love her of course but not that type of love anymore. I found that talking to her was of no use as she could not relate to me in this as she did not feel the same. Also the more I spoke to her the more guilt I felt and I would shy away from my own feelings. Finally I had to accept my feelings and do what was right for me. It was very hard but the only person who can make this decision is you. Talking to anyone will not help as they can't tell you what to do. You need to evaluate yor feelings and decide to stay or leave.

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by annegreye

Anytime anything on the subject is brought up between us, we end up arguing. It's like neither of us can fairly get our points across. I can't just say what I need to BC he usually feels like I'm just attacking him, ormi upset him otherwise.

That type of relationship, where you cannot openly address needs, in a calm, respectful, empathetic environment will diminish the ability to feel in love with a person. If he cannot handle hearing you out without stating it's you 'making him upset'(note:red flag), then could be reaching a level of therapy work, or going separate ways.