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I may be in the wrong forum but I have a question. I get a general trend among our younger posters that they have some serious trust issues. Many people write that their relationship suffers due to lack of trust. I don't recall people feeling the same when I was dating. What makes you feel this way?

I don't think it is a generational thing. It might be though.

I think people with trust issues in my experience is due to bad past experiences. If a dog attacks you when you are a little kid you don't ever trust dogs again.

I agree...once you've been cheated on or lied to...trust is hard. I agree it's not a generational thing. Seems to happen at any age.

I agree with the aforementioned agreements. Heh. OP, perhaps you just had some great experiences that didn't tarnish your outlook on relationships and/or people. Whatever the reason, I think there's ample reason to struggle trusting people; people can be complete tools, in a none-useful way. xD I think some people out there forget that trust should be earned, or at least, a lot of us believe that trust must first be earned, rather than assumed.

I have come to realize through my own mistakes as well as relationships that one major cause of distrust is contributed merely because that person has been hiding as well. I would say 80 percent of relationships i was either involved with personally or from people i was close to the person who does the accusing is probably the one who should be accused. The other major reason is hurt from a previous MEANINGFUL relationship. If you were involved in a relationship where the other half is your entire world and that person broke your heart, any intimate relationship after that may take a long time to trust entirely. As much as we all probably say we WON'T compare our previous ex's, whether consciously or unconsciously, we tend to anyway.

This is a mental health site's forum on Relationships. That means that there are many steps of self-selection that lead to people's posting on it. In no way is it representative of society as a whole.

Only my humble opinion, but if I had to look at it from a generational angle, it seems the younger you start dating or messing around, the more opportunity to get hurt, heart broken and betrayed..., which could then understandably lead to trust issues in young adulthood where romantic relationships are concerned...


I didn't start dating until after I graduated HS (sure I messed around and experimented some) but I had my first steady bf at 18 and at age 30 I'm only on BF number 3, subsequently without trust issues, might I add...


Again, just my opinion from a different angle.

I see it alot on here and to be honest I blame social media for a large majority of it ... all the he said she said crap and liking whatever and what not on Facebook and other social medias (bleh), is hellish on a relationship and of course all the lack of communication skills.

Very sad !