What is my next step?

So I start chatting with this girl on Tinder. I think I like her. She seems to have interest in me too. My friends already hook me up with her. But I know myself. Most of the times, it starts great, until I f**k everything up. I'm a little bit reserved, of course. Since I don't really know her. We're chatting for 2-3 days now, and I only saw few pictures of her. I found her FB but I don't really like the idea, so I didn't sent her request. At first we started talking about horror movies. She actually wanted me to go out with her to watch Annabelle. That was kinda wierd. I mean, movie on first date? Sounds a bit cliche. I think this is her way of saying that she is interested. So I want to do the next step, because the horror movie topic is depleted. I joked around a few times, but sooner or later I'll need to initiate a conversation. I don't know how, so it doesn't sound wierd and out of place. I want to get her out as soon as possible and at least once before the movie. It would be a lot more comfortable for me than texting. The thing is that I'm sick right now and I need to keep the conversation going until I get better and ask her out.

What if you say that you are sick but you would like to ask her out (say) next Friday when you are better?

I agree, be honest. "I've got _____________ right now, but can we go on Saturday?"

Yes, of course I could ask her out and set a date next week, but its Tinder. I need to ask her out as soon as possible. I'm still random guy in chat and she might lose interest the moment the conversation flow stops. Moreover, there is a great possibility that she is texting with other guys. That's why I want to see her, so I can be more comfortable and act appropriаtеlly. But that s****y sickness came of out nowhere. We were texting whole day, and right now I have the perfect opportunity to do so. I have an idea and I'm gonna try. Wish me luck!

P.S. lilypup - You really have seen talking trash cans?

I do not know what Tinder is, but I see that you are making two mutually exclusive statements. You are saying that going to a movie on a first date is cliche (even though it is a horror movie? I'd think not...), which implies that you want to be original and not like everybody else.

At the same time, you are saying that you are now just a random guy on Tinder chatting with her, possibly one among many, so in fact you are doing what everybody else is doing and not being original.

I would invite her to a movie planning ahead so you'd be over the sickness, and stop worrying about being unoriginal.

Getting her sick or acting below your usual standard due to sickness might not be the way to go.

Still, I wish you luck!

Exactly! Thanks.

I'm not sure I understand what you mean. The movie is not a good idea for a first date, because you need to stay quiet one hour or more in a dark room full of other people. A first date (especially if its set up in a chat) should be something casual, like walk in a park, where you can talk and get to know each other. Tinder in other hand, its a so called "hook up app". Basically if someone you like, likes you, you can start a chat. In my opinion she is quite beautiful and if she liked other guys I'm pretty sure they wouldn't pass the opportunity. But since most guys are there for one-night hook up and she seems like a decent girl who wants more, I have a bit hope. The date is set, but its in 6 days, though. Gosh, I can't wait six days...

Yes! Good luck and have fun!

Well, the date was set on the first day actually, and it was her idea. I just wanted to ask her out before that. After a couple of days of long texting, she finally said good night. I haven't heard anything from her since yesterday evening and I know I probably shouldn't be worried, but my lse kicked in and I can't stop imagining a line of handsome guys waiting to be picked by her, every moment. Friend of mine said I should wait for not to look needy. It's almost 10PM here and I couldn't wait anymore, so I texted her...

Text somebody else instead...

Why should I?

To distract yourself from your compulsion to text this girl when you know better. You were correctly told by your friends that you should avoid appearing needy and desperate, but you cannot heed their advice in practice. Distracting yourself and getting busy with something else, or someone else, would help.

Yes, I finally figured that out myself. I did actually text her yesterday, though. Luckily she seemed pleased by it.

that is good news. when will you recover from the sickness - do you know?

It's was more serious than I thought, but I'm almost recovered, already. In 1-2 days I will be like brand new. Thanks for asking!