[hvert]

My boyfriend is taking an all day class out of state tomorrow. I asked him last week if he wanted to go on a fall foliage trip in that area after his class. I had been planning my own trip to that area and was trying to time it for peak foliage.

He said he did. He took next Monday off from work. He said that I might need to drive because he would be tired after his class. I told him that we would need to take my car (I can't drive his - it's stick shift). He didn't object.

The weather does not look good for the first day of our trip. I have been keeping my eye on it and mentioning it.

He says that he took that to mean that I wanted to cancel the trip. This morning he told me that he needed to do something for his brother this weekend instead. He also said that I was horning in on his trip - and that he didn't want to take my car. I got upset - this is the first time I am hearing this, the morning of the day we are supposed to leave?

He accused me of 'starting drama' before his class tomorrow. He told me that I was ruining the event he had been looking forward to.

I told him that I thought my reaction was normal - why wouldn't I be upset that he was backing out of a trip we had planned at the last minute? How did I start this?

He said he would go on the trip, which didn't really make me feel better.

I don't really know what to do now. I thought that I would just take my trip without him, but I'm halfway through packing and losing my enthusiasm. I don't see how I can go on the trip with him now that he has said that he doesn't want to go - it really makes me mad, like I lose no matter what I do.

[~Christina]

That was / is a damn stupid situation. Im sorry. I cant begin to understand what he was thinking or not thinking ... Do you have a friend that would love a get a way last minute?

I have had a couple of these situations pop up .. I went ahead and just gone ahead and had a nice time, even alone.

I do think that your going to need to have a sit down discussion with him and find out what the hell he was thinking !

Maybe the trip will help you clear your mind and offer you time to find out exactly what you want to say.

Im sorry this happened to you

[RRex]

Go without him, girl!

[lilypup]

Yep, go and have a nice time. This"fight" will wear off. Take your camera.

[hvert]

Thank you all for responding!

I am pretty sure that if I go without him, I will just be angry the whole time and not enjoy myself, so I am probably going to skip it. If I am going to be unhappy anyway, I might as well save my money and stay at home, you know?

When he came home from work today, he seemed surprised that I had not packed our camping gear (I normally do all the packing). All of a sudden he decided that we would do the foliage trip after all (after giving me the silent treatment all day - normally we email/text back and forth).

I told him that I didn't know how I could go after he had given me multiple reasons this morning for not going. I left the house because he is too frustrating to deal with (silent and angry) and he was gone when I got home forty minutes later.

I find that we often reach an impasse with stuff like this. He remembers conversations I don't and denies things that I remember. I forwarded him 'proof' of what I had said via email but he ignored it. He keeps telling me that it's a misunderstanding and I'm just like, yeah, you said one thing while you meant another.

I think that he just told me what he thought I wanted to hear? I have no idea - he seemed excited about it. He took time off from work-- and all of a sudden this morning he claims that he never wanted to go.

I'm still angry. Maybe I stay angry about this stuff too long.

I bet if you went even to a park to sit and look at the trees and the pretty colors your anger would go away .