The Inner Child

In relation ship to my adult self and my inner child.How do I nurture my inner child? And when I verbally say that she (the Inner child) still cries. Is this a form of disassociation?And how do I know when I have embraced my inner child. Boy it is tough being your own adult to you inner child.My mom is still alive but I don't think she is able to mother my inner child. But just maybe I don't give her enough credit. How can I test the waters to see if she can help me? I know I am afraid that I will be disappointed in what I my answer may be.Because she was not there for me as a child. But she has been there for me in my adult crisis these past 6 yrs.And I truly feel love by her now.She just couldn't help me then; she was in her own crisis and just was all used up.And she a different person now in a lot of ways.And when I look inside her I see beauty.

Smilie

IMO if your relationship with you mum is ok now, you can help your inner part feel better. Do try something simple, like inviting your mom out for ice cream or something like that, just for "fun" tell her. If she won't go, take yourself!

Good wishes on this.

I can only tell you what happened from my standpoint when learning to take care of my inner child. She cried, uncontrollably for a long time. She had been dismissed for so many years, that was understandable.

I had a wonderful therapist who cried right along with my inner child and me. Little by little, I gave my inner child permission to speak....permission to tell me what she needed and craved and deserved.

One of the most important things I learned how to do was to play. The inner child loves to play....to be carefree and twirl in the sun on a spring day...to make snow angels in the winter...to lie in a field and find meaning in the clouds....to hold someones hand that we look up to for love and guidance...to eat a drippy ice cream cone on a hot summer day and make a mess.....the list goes on and on.

Those are some ways to nurture your inner child. At least they were for me.

I wish you and your inner child much success in your nurturing.

Hugsssssss
J

Read John Bradshaw's "Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child." He tells you step by step how to nurture and love your Inner Child. With the agreement and acknowledgement of my T, this book was the basis of my years in therapy.

I have to tend to my inner child constantly, I hear her cries all the time, and I do believe it IS a form of dissociation..at least for me...I go on auto pilot and function at work...yet inside I'm jusy crying and praying..I got yelled at work yesterday and I handled it on the outside yet I went home, got on my knees, and prayed..I believe yes, perhaps you can trust your inner child to your mom, you truly feel loved by her now, you see her beauty, yet I do believe the only person who truly knows how to nurture your inner child is YOURSELF...I've found more and more you yourself is the only one you truly have..and God of course..write us more and let us know how your inner child..how the little one is doing....

Yes John Bradshaw I have read some of his other books.But I wasn't aware of this one, thanks. I have his read book Creating Love. And I liked it so much that I bought it. But it only grazed the surface on the inner child.

Smilie

Thanks I hadn't thought of that concept of dismissing my inner child for so long.I was expecting her to be done crying by now out of ignorants to th e fact how much more time will need.Gosh I have been working hard on my awareness, growth and healing for 6 years now.I find that I get anxious to reach the finish line of letting all the pain out.Meanwhile I am searching to understand my mother now and I wonder if her or I do the disassociation thing. I think she has done it during my mid childhood years.I have read the book on Sybil and I can relate to a few things she experienced.It's an awe some book, long but good.

Smilie