I am in love with an actress!!

I know that it happens to fall in love with a celebrity, I am not a teenager, I am in the early 30s, single and very emotional, it is for sure not love because I do not know her personally, so it can't be called love.

Many of us may see sometime in our life one of the celebrities as the girl that you ever wished to marry, by the way this case has a name in the psychology but I can't recall the name.

I am in this case about one ween ago, anyhow and without stating too much details, I reached to her personal Facebook account, sent her some messages requesting getting to know her because I want to marry her, she replied oh sorry I can't thx for your msgs. and wish you all the best.

I know she was engaged and she broke up about several months ago.

Ok, I know that the story is somewhat silly, for sure I am not in love because I do not know her personally, but any advice? Would this situation be temporary, or it will last sometime. Any idea how to convince her or reach her?

I do not want to appear as a stalker or obtrusive as well.

Thanks.

Uhm, you're already appearing as a stalker. Let her go. Do not contact her, do not try to convince her. Speaking as someone who has issues with feeling safe, LET IT GO. If you steal her feeling of safety in this world, that's one of the cruelest things you can do to someone. (Feeling safe in life is a NEED, right above food/shelter/water on the pyramid of needs. Don't mess with that.) She has already told you "no" so take that and walk away.

I can relate. I'm a girl but I was OBSESSED with Taylor Swift back from 2009-2011. I'm glad that passed, but it felt absolutely crushing that I am just one of her millions of fans and can never get to know her personally.

All I can say is, it'll pass. It may not seem that way but like you said, this isn't love and over time, the feeling will die down. Don't contact her unnecessarily (or at all) since she already expressed her disinterest. Please respect her boundaries and don't cause anxiety to her and her family.

Good luck with getting over it!

One of the main things that makes me miserable that she is interacting with me, at least she is replying which gave me some hope.

I sent her about three days ago some messages expressing what exactly I want and what I feel towards her, yesterday she told me "thank you" for a flower I sent to her, I told her you are welcome, did you read my messages?, she said "yes sure, and i respected you too much from what you say, but i am so sorry it is out of my hand", i tried to know the reason and whether she currently in a relationship or not, but she did not reply anymore.

You gave her your best try
She shot you down
It happens to the best of us

Let her go
Either that or become rich and famous, mingle in her social circles and ask her out

You are definitely right in the first part.

For being famous it is not that matters, many celebrities marry non famous people, for being rich yes this important as actresses are rich and for sure will look for rich men, I am not poor, you can say intermediate financial level.

Anyhow, I wrote to her today that i respect her decision and said sorry for disturbance...etc and I ended the contact with her.

All I can say, LIFE IS JUST A GAME OF LUCK - unfortunately.

If you had disturbed her too much, she would have blocked you from her facebook.
I admire that you go after what you want.
Being bold will get us far as long as we respect others.

Luck is what we call events that have no apparent cause.
There are always reasons why things happen and don't happen.

Keep Shooting for the Stars!

I wrote to her three times, I apologized to her for being obtrusive and she respected me too much, this is a good point, I was talking to her in a very respectable and tactful manner in a way that should not annoy her or force her to block me.

You are definitely right regarding the luck definition.
This is the first time for me trying to date an actress, and it will be most probably the last time.

Good luck.

I was obsessed with a celebrity and got involved very heavily in his fan club. It was crazy! I never reached to him directly but I was manic and nutty.
I sort of feel sorry for these people...you never know who is out there.

Ummmm . Sorry to be so blunt.... Most actors and celebrities do not respond to messages. They pay assistants to handle Facebook etc..... But your acting like a stalker regardless..

You have done too much as is.

Maybe find a hobby or something to take your mind off someone you could never have.

It's normal to have a celebrity crush, but what you are doing at this point is stalking. Offering to marry someone you don't know? How would you respond if the shoe was on the other foot? Have comfort that this person you love isn't a real person. You are in love with a persona. An ideal.

She is young at the mid 20s, this is her personal Facebook profile not a fan page, she - herself interacts with her friends (including other celebrities), and handling her account by herself.

Generally, and not in that case only, talking or messaging someone you have never met and whoever the person you are trying to reach is stalking.

Anyhow, I was reading about celebrity obsession or celebrity worship, and this is psychological status as a consequence of a mental illness, and as I suffer from depression, lack of love, loneliness, so it is normal to pass by such case.

She is not so famous, a middle eastern actress, has an angel face, so polite, delicate, innocent, elegant and class, she is like the girl I dream to have in my life, I feel like I want to care for her in every-way a person can be cared for, I feel like I want to do anything to make her the happiest lady on the earth, I want to hug her to let her feel safe.

Look. I don’t want to make fun of you mate but come on, she’s an actress! You don’t even know her and you claim you are in love with her. How do you know she is all the things you say she is? It could just be an act and she could be a nasty piece of work behind the camera. I never had any crushes on celebrities but I knew some people that did so I wouldn’t say it is that strange but to say you believe you are in love with her is crazy and I think you need to get out more and meet more women. I have heard of some singers (male and female) dating and marrying their fans but it is rare and with actors and actresses they tend to stick to their own groups and rarely associate with other people.

On a final note, I noticed you mentioned she is in her early twenties and you are in your early thirties and are very emotional. Why do you want to date a girl this young? I am not saying there is anything wrong with girl that age but I am in my late twenties and if I wasn’t married I would not date girl that young because I find I have nothing in common with them. A large percentage of them are still in Uni or living with their parents, have different tastes in music and are at different stages in their lives.

I know well that it is not a true love, It just appears to me as love, but it is definitely not, I do not know her personally, I am adult and mature enough and I am understanding well what is happening to me, not a teenager, disregarding whether she pretends to be innocent or not, this is not our topic.

I know that all the story is nonsense, just wanted to share my feelings here.

She is mid 20s and I am in early 30s, there is nothing wrong with six years age gap !!

Who is it?

Sorry if I offended you but I was just thinking when you start dating girls in their early twenties you are getting awfully close to the Beaver/One Direction generation and that is not a good thing. You're right. Six years isn't that much difference but I just prefer women my own age or older because they have better tastes in music.

With that being said, I stick by my post and I think you need to get out more and meet more women. Good luck.

Who hasn't been in love with a celebrity? You just have to accept the fact that there is probably not gonna be a chance for you, I'm sorry..

You'll find a person equally beautiful soon enough, I promise!

You are definitely right that I need to meet more women. Unfortunately, according to my work nature It is very difficult to establish several relationships with other girls, I do not have any open channel but to go online which is a big hassle and headache, I have much emotions inside me that need to get off.

Many thanks,

Usually people who suffer from depression or loneliness...etc are more subjected to fall in love with a celebrity, most probably celebrities quality of life appears to be nice and happy, depressed people may see that being in a relationship with a celebrity is a survive and that will enhance their quality of life.

Many thanks for the person whose I got the most nice reply for that topic.

Good luck dear.

If I were you I would let it go, before you find yourself in jail for stalking. Contacting her on facebook she has the messages. I am sure you can give your love to another woman who would return it, who is not and actress.

Are you receiving treatment for your depression? That might actually be more beneficial to you than mooning after young women on Facebook. When you are emotionally more stable, then you might consider finding a woman close to your own age who has the qualities you admire.

I have depression. I don't share your view of celebrities although this could be a cultural difference between us. Still, my advice is to improve your own health and then look for a wife among healthy non-celebrity women close to your own age. If you value beauty and fidelity, kindness and a desire to take care of the relationship, you should have no trouble finding women who have those qualities.

You took the entirely wrong approach to that. It was quite surprising to read, to be honest. Contacting a stranger and basically saying that you want to marry them is the sort of thing one might view as, "creepy".

It sounds more like an infatuation, or perhaps an obsession. It might be worth seeing a professional in-case there are underlying issues, which I suspect there are.

Best of luck to you.

I suffer from depression many years ago, tried many medications and went to many doctors, slight improvement, never got rid of depression completely.

I am emotionally deprived so I fall in love (not real love for sure) with any pretty girl, getting married or involved in a love relation will help me too much getting over my depression (I had a girlfriend, and one fiancé). Due to my work nature, my relations and my general lifestyle and other circumstances, it is really so hard to find the girl I am looking for, may be this is one of the reasons I felt love towards this actress, I found in her everything that I could ever wished for.

Many thanks for your kind reply.

I understand well your reply, and already realize it, being creepy, stalker and obtrusive when talking to a stranger whoever she is in a personal matter.

There is a sad fine line on both ways of the street. You've been experiencing infatuation and on the verge of stalking like what I've seen. I have those thoughts of my only two celeb crushes every once in awhile, but if you make it your focus that's all you'll think about. There is nothing for you like everyone is saying for me I'm in a unique situation where I can be with those people in real life.
So I look at this in a different perspective. If I was famous or not, just being human as a girl or guy and someone is wanting to marry me from what they like face value. I don't see it as a valuable relationship, because they may not like the bad qualities they probably don't know as a secondary thought, but mainly. I wouldn't consider talking to them, because it's unhealthy for me and the person who would be pursuing to get my attention.
It's very unsettling to put people onto pedestals whether it's a girl you obsess over or guy you don't even know to well in your friends group you may like or someone you know and celebrities. People often always forget that dissociation of a celebrity from being a person like you and me is the first and biggest mistake of this kind of behavior, because it shows you don't really love the person just the idea of them. Not just being a celebrity, but the qualities you may like from the outside, but that may not be the case at all in reality. It's like in public where people make fronts to put up as a mask to protect themselves and filter out potentially negative people in their lives. So think of them trying to be so perfect as they are with the attention and paparazzi as that kind of front too.
I hope this makes sense. I know I didn't read too much, but I thought I should put an input.