[seawhale]

Have an advice say it, don't have please follow up only with the topic if you are interested.

I usually like to EXCESSIVELY have fun with people, I am a people pleaser, many people said that I have a sense of humor, but actually I like to make people laugh, I am not silly or crown.

Specially with coworkers this caused me some disrespect from them, and for sure I see this is normal to disrespect someone who is telling jokes most of the time, other times for sure I am serious.

I want to change this, I do not know how, but when I stop laughing people think I have been changed and I stopped loving them.

I am really in a problem, all people have fun sometimes, but when you do it much you lose your respect. I understand this very well.

Another point, I have a coworker on Facebook, who I believe do not like my posts, and many times he humiliates me in front of others, every time I forgive him, and he does it again, now I want to unfriend him, would this be a good idea?

I got tired from dealing with all people around me and I really want to be self employed to limit my interaction, I want to live alone, even all people I respect and like change by time. What a miserable life.

[PianogirlPlays]

Protect yourself by all means. Getting off of Facebook for awhile or just private message a few. Get rid of the person. Anything but allow abuse. Try as hard as you can to be yourself. Hope you can find a way to just feel comfortable.

[seawhale]

Originally Posted by PianogirlPlays

Protect yourself by all means. Getting off of Facebook for awhile or just private message a few. Get rid of the person. Anything but allow abuse. Try as hard as you can to be yourself. Hope you can find a way to just feel comfortable.

Thanks for your kind reply.

I will never feel comfortable in my life, I tried too much, the only way for someone like to feel comfortable is to die. I don't want to suicide for the sake of my parents. Please death come to me, I waited too long for you.

[vonmoxie]

Just some ideas to consider; no judgment on my part:

Best thing to keep in mind about people who are unkind to us is that changing ourselves to suit those people is highly unlikely to elicit a positive result, if you think that they are ill-intended towards you in the first place. Also, there is likely not a single soul walking this earth who is liked by every person they encounter, and if we spend time worrying about the people that don't like us we will be worrying until the end of time.

Regarding in the workplace though, it might be worth refining people's perception of you as being a jokester since that could work against their ability to see you as serious about the job, regardless of whether it's true or not. However, rather than attempt an entire personality change, which I don't even recommend as there can be loss of identity in taking such a thing on, and as you suggest can come off as fake to people -- why not just be more precise in your efforts? Don't share all the jokes all the time, but try cutting down a bit, saving the inclination to share them until moments present themselves in which you think folks can especially use the break of hearing one. In this way you can also be telling only your best ones! As well as showing greater capacity for discipline, which can translate well in the workplace, suggesting an ability to exert discipline in other areas as well.

Regarding your co-worker "Facebook friend", there's really not much reason I can think of to stay friends with someone who humiliates you on Facebook or in real life, but as another option, you could leave him in your friend list but just make it so that he can't see your posts. I don't remember how anymore as I hardly use the application, but it's never hard to find current information online. I haven't reviewed this but just as an example here's a youtube video from August of this year that explains how to do it.

Best wishes and good luck.

[seawhale]

Vonmoxie

Many thanks for your nice reply. I will try to apply your approach it may be looks better to others, I have never been someone else but me.

For that coworker Facebook friend, I will give him a last chance, then I will unfriend him directly, I see that un friending is somewhat better and reasonable than when he opens my profile and realize that he has been put on the restricted list.