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#1
Nov 01, 2014, 06:36 AM
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I'm perfectly happy with my lack of social life, I'm just wondering, is a social life one of those things that you never get if you ask for it? I think, to ask for friendship would reveal a lot of things that turn people away from you.
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Nov 01, 2014, 06:58 AM
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I think friendships are something you participate in and slowly develop. You don't really "ask" for them.
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Nov 01, 2014, 07:33 AM
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I feel you can ask for friendship. You can say generally "I'm looking to make new friends" or to a specific person "I think you're cool and would like to be friends/be closer". Being open about wanting friendship can attract people who also want friendship. But it takes a lot more than asking and availability, good friendships are hard work and sometimes people just aren't compatible as close friends. Asking can be a start though.
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Nov 01, 2014, 07:53 AM
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I don't mean to discourage you but I would not "ask" for friendship. It sounds like too much pressure to put on someone (and kind of makes you sound desperate). I would immediately think that you have no friends at all and question that internally. I presume most people have made their friends already. If you are looking for a friend I would just be friendly and if you have things in common with someone a friendship will develop naturally. I don't think it is something that can be pushed. If a person backs away from your conversation then its best to let them go. There will be someone else someday that you will run into who will be drawn to you automatically. It just happens that way.
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Nov 01, 2014, 08:52 AM
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Totally agree with Creamsickle and Zinco.
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Nov 01, 2014, 08:59 AM
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'Ask' may not be the exact right word, but I do think that you have to be open or looking for a social life in order to have one.
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Nov 01, 2014, 10:18 AM
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Most friendships are formed by having something in common, and by getting to know each other in a group setting. Job, church, school, bar, etc. Rather than ask someone to be your friend, ask them to coffee or lunch. The only way to see if you "click" is to talk and spend time together. Don't worry if they don't really want friendship, it's ok to just be acquaintances on good terms.
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