I am going through a lot of changes lately. Ever since I started school, and a new medication. I am kind of losing friends. But...it's not like, I'm doing something. It's more like, I am the one doing the dropping. Mainly, I am really fed up with the "friends" in my life, who aren't there for me...our relationships changed. And I just had a fight with one of my best guy friends. I'm frustrated with him and I think he's frustrated with me too. I really........I think that...I can go do other things. In terms of finding new friends. But it's just really scaring me that this has all happened in such a short timespan. I feel like a kid who lost their security blanket and really needs it. Only, the security blanket was gross and kept making her sick, or something. Or was holding her back. I just needed to vent and say this somewhere. I think I just really want someone to say to me, "it's going to be ok, you, are going to be Ok."

[allme]

Have you tried talking to them about your issues with them? I would at least recommend trying to resolve your issues first. It's ok if you don't want to, as you get older you out grow some friends and you will find your circle of friends don't stay the same forever. In the last 10 years (now 33) I have had 3 groups of friends all change. For 1, people grow apart and another, people move away.

One thing though, maybe you should speak to a professional about your sudden change and dropping friends straight after your new meds? Maybe they are having a negative effect? I am no doctor so of course speak to an actual doctor for clarification!

Aslong as it has nothing to do with the meds, it's ok, you will make new friends...even if it takes a while, you will meet new ppl...when you are ready of course. But then you have to find a way to meet new people. Or are there old friends you could reconnect with? Or maybe improve the quality of the friendships you have with friends you still have?

[indygerry]

Honestly friendships tend to come and go throughout the course of the lifetime. Not sure what age group you are in, but this is rather common in the 20s.

Everyone needs people around them to support them in their life choices and be a part of their daily existence. Sometimes when we change or improve ourselves, the friends we once had no longer have the same interests or common characteristics as us and that is okay.

Changing over your social connections isn't always a bad thing, but losing your entire social network can be a little rough.

I don't think that its a big cause for concern if you are removing tight ties with people that aren't building you up or adding something to your life. As you kick out people on your board of directors that you might want to seek out new candidates to fill those positions whether its through school, church, vollunteerism or other activities in your community.

Plus you never know how things are going to play out, you might write off your friend right now in the moment but find that as time passes things change, people change and you can reconnect with him in a new way, perhaps standing on different ground.

Love yourself, stay healthy and be positive. Everything will workout.

Hey, thanks for the responses. Thanks a lot. I am changing a lot, for the better, I think! And I might be a bit of a late bloomer in terms of this stuff. I'm 31. But yeah, I appreciate the reassurance. Things are going Ok today.

[hvert]

Hey, I'm in my mid-30s too and have done this a few times throughout my life (dropped most of my friends). I always used to worry that there was something wrong with me, like I was turning anti-social. I finally figured out that I have a bad pattern of developing really unhealthy friendships and keeping them until I just burn out.

So it could be a good sign that you are dropping your friends. I really like your security blanket analogy. Everything is going to be okay

I found it helpful to sort of examine why I wanted to drop these people so I could avoid making friends like that in the future.