I have lost a friend

I became friends with this girl my freshman year at college. She always had a boyfriend, but it didn't stop us from being friends. Whether it was school work, needing a hug, or someone to talk to, she was always there and I made sure to be there for her. When her died dad, I was one of ylrhe folks who contacted her and tried to be there for her. But when I came back from summer break for my junior year, everything changed. When I tried talking to her, all I got were one word responses and she would tell me "hold on" and walk away. I thought she was having a bad day, but when I tried to talk to her again at a football game, she just started walking away when I was talking to her. "She replies, " I will talk to you later" with a smile and continues her own way and not paying any mind to what I was saying. It seemed a lot had changed in her life since her fathers death. She had recently found a new boyfriend and joined FCA(fellowship of Christian athletes). I guess she had rededicated her life to Christ, but I was still happy for her. However I was still confused by how distant she was acting so I just backed off.

I thought things would change this senior year, but she was even more colder. The last time I tried to talk to her, I tried to say "it's so good to see you", but before I can finish that sentence, she replies, "it was good talking to you too" and walks away. I felt so embarrassed, hurt, and angry. What the heck was that all about? Of all the people to make a 180 on me, she was the last person I expected to do that.

Are you Christian also? If not, that may be why she is shunning you. In my experience, Christians, born-again and otherwise, often will not be close friends with someone who is not also Christian or even the same denomination of Christianity. Perhaps she thinks that she needs to exclude all non-Christians from her life in order to live righteously. Dunno. Religious people are weird.

I actually am a Christian. She started blowing off at church. That's where most this took place. That made this even more surprising and confusing. Even Christian folks don't want me around. Smh

Yeah, very confusing! I'm sorry to hear she's treating you this way. Losing a friend is hard, especially when you have no idea why they're gone. Been there myself. I doubt that other Christian folks don't want you around -- just her. Maybe she felt like she was cheating on her boyfriend by being friends with you? I know that's a stretch, but people can get unrealistic notions in their heads.

It will never make sense to me. But whatever, I had to get it off my chest.

I think maybe she though she was leading you on so she is backing off from you . Did you tell her in anyway you like her more then a friend ?

If she liked me as a friend, she never gave me a hint or indication. Maybe she thought I was not there enough when her father died. I did the best I could.

I can understand how bad you feel as I've been dumped too. Can you just come out and ask her what happened between the two of you? It will drive you crazy wondering why. I know it's driven me crazy.

Believe me I have tried. We are no longer Facebook friends and her number changed. And nobody in Fca will give me her number. The one time I tried to ask, she said it was because we barely saw each other. For whatever reason, she doesn't want me apart of her life. I should get over it, but I have a hard time doing that. I have a hard time moving on.

Think back there must of been something for her to change her number and take you off FB . U don't have to tell us but people normally do not act this way unless something happened that made her stay away from you .
And if nothing happened then she is one cold girl she didn't even give you closure.

I actually removed her after she blew me off the final time. I also left out that at a Halloween party when she was acting really just.... Idk how to to even think of it. I said something and she she gave me this weird look. I left her alone that night and I only said hey when we crossed paths. But it seemed like a really stuck up look.

Closure is overrated. You can talk for hours and hours but not get any satisfying answers.

Ahhh darlin! I'm so sorry you're being treated this way! I'm here for you if you need to talk to someone! Bless your heart!

Yes, I myself have no idea what is going on. You have tried be friends with her and you are getting the opposite I would just go out and meet new people. Those feelings will slowly fade and she will just be a memory and lesson to you on treating people. No you may have never treated others that way but it will show that you shouldn't ever do that since you know how much it can hurt.