insecurities!

so my (ex) boyfriend said we needed a break for a bit. he said he's sick of the ********. I tend to get a little insecure about stuff. he talks to other girls [like I talk to my guy friends] but for some reason, I always think the worst. we have been thru alot of stuff with the past year [with nonsense drama from other people, etc] & any other guy would've left. but he's still here. he still says he wants to be with me & he still loves me. we talked about marriage and moving in as well. so why do I feel so insecure?? and is there anyway I could try to stop it?

answered your other post. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

I seen it. I accidently posted this twice! lol

Taking a look at insecurity can involve looking at what needs are unaddressed in your relationship. It also involves looking at life, as a whole, to see if there are patterns of feelings that stem from feelings in childhood.
Are the female friends a threat, in that it's flirtatious, or a threat in they receive a level of support that maybe you feel, lacking? Do these friendships tie up a lot of time, that you could be bonding and building a solid relationship?

I don't think they are. I think it's just because it's a girl, so I automatically think they want him or vice versa. he had said before that if he wanted to leave me, he would've but he hasn't. he was supposed to come down today, but instead he drove 45mins [that's how far he lives], to come see me. he was working and said he kept thinking of me. and that he misses me. he had given me a promise ring a while ago, but brought it back last night and gave it back. but I'm still working on myself and this insecurity