[ForeverLonelyGirl]

A question was posted on facebook to tell about your first date with the love of your life. That started me thinking...the love of my life is certainly not my ex-husband. After a very brief engagement we were married, I then discovered after only 2 weeks that I had married the completely wrong person! I was very young and naive, the only excuse I have for doing such an idiotic thing.

This had me thinking about the guy that I obsessed over for a couple of years when I was 17, I felt I truly loved him. Only got to barely talk to him once I think, wow that makes me feel like a ginormous loser. The only time that I felt that overwhelming in love with someone was with an actor that I only saw in a television series. I made facebook posts with his photos and also pinterest boards with tons of his photos. If I see him still, I can get giddy. This all sounds like I am extremely emotionally immature. Of all the people that I have dated, lots of guys and a few women, I have no idea that I ever met my soul mate or any love of my life. How sad is that? Guess I am just unlovable.

I truly ended up hating my ex-husband so much it was ridiculous. I felt trapped in that relationship for 10 years, could not get away from him until I could finish nursing school and leave. He was toxic. He was a self centered, selfish user and abuser. There are a lot of words to describe him. I could write a book! So I could hardly call him a love of my life at all.

So, not sure I ever even met anyone that really loved me. Once again, that makes me feel even more like a pathetic human being. I am not too old to meet someone, but I guess my lack of self esteem and anxiety issues are going to make that impossible. Indeed a truly tragic thing that I am going to have to live alone and sad for the rest of my life. I wish that I was strong enough to change things.

[Ripose]

Are you really open to letting someone love you?

If not there may be many people that have or still do love you but if you are not open to it these people will come into and then leave your life, without you having even noticed.

Love yourself first and others will follow.

[nicoleflynn]

I stayed with the x abuser for 31 years........alone now for 11...just excruciating. I DID write about it all, in my memoir Ghost Child to Triumph (from a child with no voice, to someone who speaks up against injustice).

Unfortunately, I do love someone, but he is not available; I am 68 (and a Sophomore in college). Age is irrelevant; we are never "too old" to meet anyone.....consider therapy?

[Vulgaris]

The whole the one thing is just a myth propagated by Hollywood.

[ForeverLonelyGirl]

Originally Posted by nicoleflynn

I stayed with the x abuser for 31 years........alone now for 11...just excruciating. I DID write about it all, in my memoir Ghost Child to Triumph (from a child with no voice, to someone who speaks up against injustice).

Unfortunately, I do love someone, but he is not available; I am 68 (and a Sophomore in college). Age is irrelevant; we are never "too old" to meet anyone.....consider therapy?

Bravo to you being in college! I really would love to be. I understand that I could go tuition free when I turn 60 in my state but I think it will not apply to a degree. May I ask what you plan to do with your degree? Or if you are going via free tuition?

So sorry that you are suffering this way after an ex. He is on his 4th wife, no one can get along with him. His 4th is way younger than him but looks like she came straight out of that latter day saints group with the women in the prairie dresses so she looks and acts older than I do. She seems scary, like she might just poison him when (not if) he cheats on her!

I seem to consistently run in to women in their 50's that are single, lonely and miserable. We are in the invisible years now. Not fun.

To Vulgaris, I think that many people feel like they had a great love in their life. Some are just unlucky like me. I do question whether there is such a thing as a 'soul mate'.