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Nov 12, 2014, 01:51 PM
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I've posted about my relationship problems before, and honestly, things have gotten better. He's trying to be more loving and affectionate, and we've even had sex (woo hoo!). He's a great guy, and I love him deeply.
My vent is that he doesn't want to marry me, and it makes me feel like I'm not good enough for him. He says his last marriage was so bad that he can't do it again. We've been together two years, living together one, and for the most part it's been really good. He says he trusts me completely, but he just can't marry me. Someone suggested a commitment ceremony, which is a nice idea, but I don't think he'd go for it. I'd really like to get married again--eventually. A long engagement is fine with me, but I want to work towards marriage. It's important to me in a very deep way. My T agrees that if I had another place to live, I would be best off ending this relationship, since it's not going anywhere. Unfortunately, I have no place to go. I wish I knew how to deal with these feelings so the desire to marry again wouldn't plague me like this. Sigh. Thanks for listening to me vent! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Nov 12, 2014, 02:16 PM
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Two years and one year living together doesn't seem like it is going nowhere. That's really not that long in my view.
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Nov 12, 2014, 03:19 PM
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To me it is.
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Nov 12, 2014, 03:59 PM
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I think a commitment ceremony would be great. Have you talked to him about it?
I know from my experiences (been married and divorced 3 times) I don't want to get married again. I will commit myself to someone, exchange rings if they want, Make all the promises and vows that a legal ceremony would call for, but I feel legalizing it won't make it work. It takes two to make a relationship work and unless you make the effort, it will end in divorce. I don't want to experience that again. I lived by my vows, and kept my promises, to many people don't now a days. |
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Nov 13, 2014, 03:16 PM
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maybe he will change his mind within time? maybe in a year he will be ready for marriage again. if you love him deeply, don't give up. try not to push the marriage issue either, if it's meant to be, it'll happen. that's how I usually think of things. best of luck to you!
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