[GreenFrogg]

I've dated a man, on and off, for five years. He recently popped back into my life, in hopes to mend the relationship. We've remained friends and still get advice from each other. We've been at this a week and I'm seeing familiar patterns, and I'm beginning to pause. My first request was to get couples counciling before we move forward. He has been open with feelings and communication, but I still feel he's holding back. I cannot put myself through another "it's just not working" episode. Any suggestions?

[jelly-bean]

I think you are doing the right thing by suggesting the counseling. I just hope that he will go with you.

[curley]

Originally Posted by GreenFrogg

I've dated a man, on and off, for five years. He recently popped back into my life, in hopes to mend the relationship. We've remained friends and still get advice from each other. We've been at this a week and I'm seeing familiar patterns, and I'm beginning to pause. My first request was to get couples counciling before we move forward. He has been open with feelings and communication, but I still feel he's holding back. I cannot put myself through another "it's just not working" episode. Any suggestions?

I agree get the counseling right away. It sounds like you have cared about this man for quite a while, so you are invested, but this time around the counseling should give you a clue whats up before you are reallllllllly involved!!! I am thinking that if it does not work there may be some more hurt for you and I am sorry. You just need to decide if you are willing to put the effort in. Good luck

[Crazy Hitch]

Hey greenfrogg

I can understand why you would enter this with caution.

You've been through a difficult time in the past and some of those signs are still there.

It's a tough decision to make.

You don't want to land up hurt or disappointed again.

The only way forward is some means of intervention.

You don't want the cycle to repeat itself, understandable.

Hope things fall into place for you.

Do what you feel is right

[PennyD]

I, too, agree with the counseling. it can really help and give you tips and ideas on how to move forward together. I would really look into that. Also just take some time to think through what you really want from this relationship and if you think that you are ready.