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Old Nov 15, 2014, 08:47 PM
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I would like your opinions upon this topic.

I don't think you should judge them right away due to there could be reasons to why they are still living at home, especially how the economy is today.
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Old Nov 15, 2014, 09:18 PM
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I am not seeing why living with parents would automatically be an issue.
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Old Nov 15, 2014, 09:23 PM
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I am not seeing why living with parents would automatically be an issue.
I agree.

I find it ridiculous when I hear others talking about don't ever date a guy/girl who still live with their parents. There are even quite a few websites that talk about why not to date people who do this. It's not good to assume the worst out of any situation when you don't know why.
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Old Nov 15, 2014, 09:47 PM
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I find it bs, I had to move back in with my parents for medical complications and the fact my roommate was a psychotic drunk, and I couldn't find a job that accept me since I wasn't a college student. They discriminated me to not get a job, and it was at every location I went to. I was starving myself for surviving on 10 dollars a week. To think when I moved back in I got more **** about it... This stuff makes me so mad when I hear this being told to me how they don't like it. I mean I can't change their minds and I don't want to, but the ignorance just bugs me the most.
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Old Nov 16, 2014, 08:06 AM
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I agree there are many good reasons to live at home (economy) maybe taking care of one's parents. There is one thing that comes to mind for me and that is if a man has never left his home because all his needs are being met there (with few exceptions). He may very well never leave. I think that would become a concern if you are dating a long time. The man may never suggest living together because he doesn't want the responsibilities it entails. It's way to easy living at home and dating forever. Why would he give up mom's cooking, cleaning and caring for him? In some ways this is having it ALL. That is just one of the reasons that causes a red flag to go up. I'm not saying that applies to everyone but there are people like this.
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Old Nov 16, 2014, 10:46 AM
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^^^Agree about bearing in mind, if the person has ventured out on their own before or not. Not in judgment, but reality based decision making as to what complications there could be, down the road.
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Old Nov 16, 2014, 10:50 AM
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I think the reason why people get a bad rap about this topic is because some not all but some people just want a free ride off there parents and not work and not help out and just take and never give.

My son is 19 and lives at home but he also has a full time job and pays us rent .
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Old Nov 16, 2014, 01:10 PM
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For me it would depend on the circumstances why they were living with their parents.
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Old Nov 16, 2014, 03:10 PM
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I personally wouldn't judge them for It, but I would also not be down for it.
I would feel awkward having sex with his parents in the next room LOL
I mean I know a guy who lived with his mother, because she had extreme mental health issues, and she needed the help around the house, and with taking her meds, meals, etc. I thought that was really sweet. and I also dated a guy who lived with his sister and mom. I got a long with them both really well, and would even hang out with his sister when I was over. I guess It all depends if his family is laidback and cool, and I felt like I could be myself. I have been living away from my parents since I was 17 so I'm not about that life.
I guess I feel like it could be really awkward and uncomfortable. I wouldn't want my boyfriends parents knowing everything that was going on in my love/sex life lol. Privacy is a must in a relationship for me.
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Old Nov 16, 2014, 06:05 PM
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I agree there are many good reasons to live at home (economy) maybe taking care of one's parents. There is one thing that comes to mind for me and that is if a man has never left his home because all his needs are being met there (with few exceptions). He may very well never leave. I think that would become a concern if you are dating a long time. The man may never suggest living together because he doesn't want the responsibilities it entails. It's way to easy living at home and dating forever. Why would he give up mom's cooking, cleaning and caring for him? In some ways this is having it ALL. That is just one of the reasons that causes a red flag to go up. I'm not saying that applies to everyone but there are people like this.
Yes, I do agree to this.
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Old Nov 16, 2014, 07:17 PM
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I asked someone out several years ago, and she said yes showing many signs of interest. I told her I lived with a parent and gave her my phone number. She quickly lost interest and canceled the date saying she was getting back together with her former boyfriend whom she seemed to never want to see again until she knew my situation.
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Old Nov 18, 2014, 02:29 AM
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I don’t have a problem with it as long as they are working and they aren’t a lazy person living off their parents.

My Wife and Step Daughter were still living with her Father when I met her and I was still living with my Sister and she was 24 back then and I was 20 and I was 23 when we moved into our own house.
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