ok, so for those who have helped me with my insecurities in previous posts, I appreciate your advice. <3

but sadly, we broke up. he says he "fell outta love" with me. I'm not gonna lie, I'm heartbroken. he said he couldn't take the fights we had & the crap so wants to be friends for now (& there were alot of fights, on both parts)..

Thursday night, he came to my place to talk. he said he does love me, & that he cares alot & he still wants to be best friends. (we are eachothers first time being IN love) to work on rebuilding a friendship. fine. but then he said he doesn't wanna hear me with another guy cuz he will come down & kick his ***. he said he doesn't want another girl & doesn't wanna date. he also said for me to keep the promise ring, said he kept a promise & he won't break that. & it's up to me if I wanna wear it (I'm not). last night he text me & said "i" 2x & said "i lo.." but then said "i don't wanna say it" I obviously know where he's going with that.

but I'm confused, he's "not in love with me anymore" but still says that stuff??? I really need help. I'm slowly moving on but it's really hard right now

[vantonius]

He sounds like my ex fiancee few months ago.. saying she love me still but she cant be with me cause of this and that and she didnt know what she actually want.. until recently she found a new guy.. she completly shut me off and say she want to move on and she wish the best for me and ask me to forget about her.. that came as a super shock cause i thought we can still work it out... i hope that wouldnt be the case with u and ur ex tho.. but either way.. you should be prepared for the worst, dont think about it too much and just be urself.. be strong and go with the flow.. cause u never know what waiting for u ahead

that's what I'm doing. he's NEVER been friends with his exs but me & he said its cuz he still cares about me alot. im sorry about your situation though. im def preparing myself though & trying to be strong

[Bill3]

but then he said he doesn't wanna hear me with another guy cuz he will come down & kick his ***.

This passage really troubles me.

--He doesn't own you such that he can dictate who you choose to be with and threaten them harm, even in "jest"
--If he isn't going to be committed to you, then he should not demand that you remain committed to him.

Good job not wearing the promise ring.

well i told him, if he says that to me...then the same needs to be for him. its not fair to me. he text me today, we talked & he said it was hard for him. i had said that i need to accept that fact that we won't be together & his response was "you don't know that", then i told him that he said he wasn't in love with me, there's nooo bouncing back from that & he got upset. this is stressful..

[Bill3]

Gosh this must be indeed stressful.

What happened after he got upset? (Was he angry? Sad?)

Hang in there sarahhxx03!

he seemed angry about it. he stopped texting for a bit (he usually does that when he's upset, cools off) & he texted again. there's no doubt that he does love me, & he's very to himself when it comes to emotions. so i don't even know what to think. and thank you, I'm trying!

[ChipperMonkey]

Kick the jerk out of your life. He is being abusive to you by saying that if you get into a new relationship, he will kick the guy's ***. That's intimidation and control my friend. Don't put up with this BS. No wonder none of his ex's want to be his friend!

[BobbyDavis]

How old is your ex? He sounds like an immature little brat with control freaking issues and him breaking up with you is his loss and not yours.

i think i need to move on, this is my first love so its extremely hard for me thanks everyone